Revenge Cheating Is A Waste Of Time

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Many people, especially women, think that the best way to deal with someone cheating on them is to cheat on them back. But I feel that not only is that stupid, it’s a serious waste of your time. I know cheating hurts, especially if it’s from someone you truly loved and cared about and never did anything wrong to them, but the best way to deal with that is to either forgive them (if you want to take them back and continue the relationship and try to fix it) or leave and find someone that will be faithful to you and give you the love you deserve.

“Revenge cheating” is stupid and a waste of time because if you do take this person back that cheated on you just to cheat on them, you shouldn’t have taken them back. When you take someone back after doing you wrong, it’s supposed to mean that you forgive them and want to give them another chance. Taking someone back to “revenge cheat” on them won’t solve anything. It’ll just create an endless cycle of cheating because you’ll be cheating on them and they’ll be cheating on you. And seriously, what’s the point in staying in a relationship that’s like that in the first place? That relationship is already dead and clearly neither one of you are trying to get together and fix it. Why are you still there?

And if you can find someone to go cheat on someone with for “revenge”, you’re clearly with someone who also doesn’t really care about you because if they did, you would actually be in a relationship with them or leave the cheater for that person, not just be with them for sex.

And if you go into a new relationship and cheat on that person when they did nothing to you just because the other person cheated on you is even dumber. In your head, you think you’re hurting the person who cheated on you and hurt you by doing that, but in reality, you are only hurting yourself and you’re trying to rid yourself of that hurt by sleeping with other people and all you’re doing is ruining a relationship that was just fine.

I saw an episode of Steve Wilkos years ago where there was a couple on there and the woman said something along the lines of, “I’m the type that if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you a lot.” And the woman went on to tell the story about how her man cheated on her and because of that, she went and slept with numerous men. They continued to stay together, but all they were doing was cheating on each other the whole time. Like, really, how does this make ANY type of sense?!

That segment is what made me think of this post because, sadly, people really think this is a justifiable way of dealing with cheating and relationship problems when all it’s doing is making things worst!

There is absolutely NO excuse for cheating. NONE AT ALL! This is why when people try to explain it and soften it up, it never makes sense. Cheating is wrong, whether it’s for revenge or simply just you not being able to control your urges and function properly for a relationship. If your relationship is at the point where you feel like cheating is the answer, you need to end that relationship and FAST!

7 Stupid, Annoying Things People Need To STOP Saying & Doing On The Internet 

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I’m on social media a lot and I see a lot of things on there that people do and say that are really stupid, annoying, and doesn’t make any sense whatsoever. I really hope to see the day when people will stop saying these things. But here are just six of the most stupid, annoying things I’ve seen people doing and saying on social media.

1. “Hop Out My Mentions”

People are always saying this whenever someone replies to a post or comment of theirs, especially if it’s disagreeing with what they say and it’s someone they “don’t know”. If you don’t want anyone responding to your posts, especially people you don’t know, either make your account private or don’t use social media at all. It’s obviously not for you. (I also think people only say this because they can’t rebuttal against the disagreeing comment any other way, so they use it as an easy cop out.)

2. “This Person Sent Me A Friend Request And I Don’t Even Know Them”

If your account is open to the public, this is what will happen. Anybody can see your profile, including people you don’t know and they CAN send you a friend request. They don’t have to “know you” in order to do so. The solution to this is the same as the solution to the previous one: if you don’t want people you don’t know sending you friend requests, either make your account private, don’t use social media at all, or get used to random people sending you friend requests because it’s going to keep happening.

3. “You’re Defending This Person Like You Know Them”

People usually say this after they say something negative about someone, especially a celebrity, and someone else defends this person against their negativity. So, a person can’t defend someone on social media because they “don’t know” them, but it’s okay for you to say anything you want about someone when you don’t know the person any more than they do? If you think with that logic, you shouldn’t be saying anything at all about anyone yourself! You not knowing someone on social media does not give you the right or a pass to say negative things about them. If you want to say something negative about someone, be ready for the backlash. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it!

4. Blocking Someone Because You Or They Disagree

Blocking is really for harassment or offensive content, but I’ve started to notice more and more people blocking other people simply for disagreeing, which, in my opinion, really screws up the true purpose of the block button. Tons of people use social media and they all have differing opinions on different subjects. Not everyone is going to agree with everything you say. If you say something, chances are, there will always be someone who disagrees. Unless they disagree with disrespect, it’s utterly ridiculous to block someone just because you disagree. You shouldn’t even be on social media at all if you’re going to be like that.

5. “S/he’s Not Paying My Bills”

People usually say this after they say something negative about a celebrity to justify what they just said. I feel like, if someone has to say something like this after they say something about someone else, they already know they’re wrong, which is why they need to make a ridiculous justification such as this so they will feel like they’re in the right. Celebrities don’t know you and don’t owe you even the laces off their shoes! It’s stupid to use this as an excuse to get a pass on saying something negative about them or use it to stop a person from defending them against what you said. It kind of sounds like bitterness; like they’re only saying negative things because they don’t have the money that the celebrity has and wants a part of it. That’s what that sounds like to me. Like I said earlier, don’t dish it if you can’t take it! A celebrity doesn’t have to “know you” or “pay your bills” for you or someone else to have an opinion about them. A celebrity doesn’t owe you just because you buy or support things of theirs. If you feel like that, stop buying and supporting their things. This includes illegally downloading their stuff. I’m not sure where this sense of celebrity entitlement comes from, but it really needs to be done away with.

6. “They have more money than you, anyway.”

This is another one people usually say when it comes to celebrities. It’s usually said when someone says something negative about a celebrity or says something about a celebrity that they don’t agree with. So, you need to have just as much money as a celebrity just to have a differing opinion about them? And if you don’t have as much money as a celebrity, the only opinion you can have is if you’re praising them and kissing their behinds or saying nothing at all? Just because they have money??? That sounds like worshipping someone just because they’re rich to me. No one needs to have a certain amount of money just to say something about someone.

7. “My Followers Are So Annoying”

This is probably the dumbest thing people say on social media out of them all because 1) if you can see them on your timeline, that means YOU followed them back! 2) If they’re that annoying, you can easily UNFOLLOW them! It has such a very easy and simple solution that it shouldn’t even need to be said. People say this like they have no control over the people they see on their timelines and like they just magically appear there. If you don’t like someone, UNFOLLOW THEM! I feel like people either just like hearing themselves say this or they’re afraid to unfollow them because their pages will be dry without them (Says a lot more about them than it does their followers).

I feel like people who say and do these things on social media are children because that’s exactly what these things sound like they come from. CHILDREN. (Or old people who don’t understand how social media works.) But sadly enough, they’re most likely from full grown adults who should know better, but don’t. They’re acting like babies! Social media really isn’t for people who say and do things like these and they really ruin the social media experience for everyone else.