Telling People To “Not Respond” To Negativity Just Might Be The Oldest Trick In The Book

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I’ve always heard people say “Just ignore it”, “Just ignore it”, or “Don’t Let It Bother You”, to other people who are dealing with someone who bothers them or does something negative to them. I used to agree and go along with that advice. But now, I believe it’s just a trick to make people passive.

I think people just want to be able to do bad things to others and not deal with any repercussions or guilt from doing it. I’m not a violent person by any means, but some people deserve to have all the teeth knocked out of their mouths for the things they say and do to other people!

People steal from others. They bully others. They say and do rude things. They spread rumors about others that aren’t even true. And, sometimes, there are people who say and spread around untrue things about people they don’t even know. I think it’s wrong to tell someone to “just ignore” things like this if they’re dealing with it. In a lot of cases, “ignoring it” just makes people do it more because they think you’re giving them the impression that they can get away with it or they just want a response out of you.

Some people are just miserable with their lives and want to screw with other people to make themselves feel better and make other people as miserable as they are. I also believe that some people only tell other people to “not respond” to negativity because the negativity isn’t happening to them and they don’t know exactly how the other person feels about it.

I think it’s weird that people do bad things to others, but if the other people retaliate, they’re looked at as the bad guys for “letting negativity get to them”. People have even made it to where if a person defends themselves against a negative rumor about them, it means that they’re “guilty” of it or it somehow makes the rumor true. What?!? How does things get this twisted?!

I don’t think people should just ignore and hold all that negativity in. I get the feeling that it’s really bad for anyone’s health. I think that causes mental instabilities, insecurities, as well as murders (There’s only so much people can take before they actually snap). I think people should do something about the negativity right there and then. People are wrong as all get out sometimes and need to be told so. It doesn’t always have to resort to violence, though. If it does, then they more than likely deserved it anyway.

I think people should at least be able to tell those people about how that stuff makes them feel, though, if violence isn’t an option. If someone is doing or saying something bad to someone else, the other person should always be able to defend themselves, no matter if it’s verbally or physically. Not roll over and just let them do it and get away with it.

Black Men & Black Women Blaming Each Other For The Problems In Their Community

One growing trend I’m seeing on the Internet more & more is black men and black women blaming each other for the problems in the black community. There are countless social media posts and videos where black men and black women are spewing hate about each other, blaming each other for everything wrong with our race, and getting tons of reactions and views for it.

Black men and black women are blaming each other for the self hate in our communities. Black men say black women are the cause because they’re always wearing straight hair and shame their daughters’ “nappy” hair while doing it and are very quick to straighten it. Black women say black men are the cause because they shame and refuse to date women who don’t straighten their hair and are more attracted to them when they wear weave than their real hair.

Black women say black men shame dark skinned women and refuse to date them. Black men say that black women shamed them for their dark skin and have horrible attitudes towards them, which is why they refuse to date them. And say that black mothers shame their sons by comparing them to their fathers in a very disrespectful manner.

They’re blaming each other for why we don’t have businesses in our communities. Black women say that black men aren’t building and give all of their money to white women. Black men say that black women give all their money to Asians by buying fake hair and nails.

They’re blaming each other for the high single mother rate in the black community. Black men say black women are single mothers because they like thugs and choose poorly in men to have children with. Black women say that it’s because black men are afraid and running away from their responsibilities.

They’re blaming each other for the high crime rate. Black women say it’s because black men are violent and don’t know how to act. Black men say it’s because of black single mothers and how they’re poorly raising young black boys.

There are so many other examples. The sad part about this is that not only are we as black people treating each other as the enemy for our problems and not our true enemies and oppressors, nobody is taking responsibility for these problems. There’s nothing but a bunch of finger pointing. So, what’s going to happen? NOTHING! The problems are going to continue to persist and we will continue blaming each other. It’s not going to do anything but get worst.

Also, we have to be very careful about how we talk about each other publicly. Saying these things about each other and ourselves will leave us wide open to stereotyping. And when it comes time to fight for real justice, our oppressors can use all these things we say about each other against us to deny us the justice we need. For instance, if we get angry about a white person calling a black person a “nigger”, they can use the fact that we call each other and ourselves that against us to get out of trouble. Or if we’re being unfairly treated or abused somewhere and we speak out about it, they will bring up “black on black crime”.

We need to come together, work together to find the root of these problems and fix them ourselves because if we don’t fix them, no one else will.

The fact that we do all this finger pointing is proof that BOTH black men AND black women are doing things to contribute to the problems in the black community. The things that we’re saying that the other side is doing says it all. And one side is NOT more guilty than the other. BOTH sides are EQUALLY guilty.

I really think we do so much negative talking about each other because we hate ourselves and fear our oppressors. I also think we do this because we are frustrated with our problems, but are too afraid to do what we have to do to face and fix them. We take this hate and fear out on each other. We have to stop and start healing.