If We ACTUALLY SAW The Bad Things Celebrities Do, Would We Still Love Them?

I remember an episode from The Simpsons where Bart idolized an actor named Buck McCoy. Bart saw him as a hero until one day, he saw him drunk and found out he was an alcoholic. Bart was crushed. He tore down all his posters and everything he had of Buck. It made me think if this is what celebrities are like in real life. Being total trainwrecks behind the scenes, but on television day in and day out being idolized by millions of people and being seen as heroes. Millions of people look up to them, thinking they’re so perfect and inspiring, and want to be just like them. Then some of those fans end up finding out about them being trainwrecks and are seriously heartbroken.

I thought I was thinking too hard until I think about their music/movies, interviews, biopics, and news stories. They admit to and get caught doing the most craziest and devastating things. They admit to being alcoholics, serious drug addicts, fighting their friends, sleeping around with nobody knows how many people (some of them have admitted that they slept with so many people, they can’t even count themselves!), and the list goes on and on. They even get caught or admit to criminal crimes, such as rape and murder!

So many celebrities do some of the craziest things imaginable, yet so many of us still love them. Even when they get caught on camera doing something crazy, there’s still so many of us who defend and still love them. Why is this?

What I’m thinking is that people have to ACTUALLY SEE WITH THEIR OWN EYES these things that celebrities do, like Bart Simpson did with his idol. I think we downplay the things they do & admit to because we didn’t personally see them doing these things ourselves. It’s much easier for us to cast something out of our heads when we don’t see it ourselves. Also, I think we do this because we still want to love them.

I’m thinking of the time when Ariana Grande got caught on camera licking a donut. What if she was never caught doing that and the store sold that donut to someone without knowing she had licked it? After the video was released, she gave an apology, which I think was filled with an excuse. She said she was just “disgusted with Americans’ eating habits” and “childhood obesity rates”. That shouldn’t be a reason to go lick a donut! To me, the apology only sounded like she was sorry because she got caught. Yet, many people forgave her and she still has so many fans. Would they have forgiven her if they ACTUALLY SAW her doing that? Not on camera in a video. But actually there seeing her do that. How would they feel if they were right behind her watching her as she did that?

I’m thinking of the story of Chris Brown beating Rihanna. I’ve heard rumors saying the story was fake and was an attempt to smear Chris Brown for some reason. I don’t know if it’s fake or not. But let’s stick to saying it’s real for now. So many people forgave him, even Rihanna herself, for beating her like that. Some people forgave him immediately when the story broke. What if people are only saying the story is fake because they don’t want to believe he did it? What if people ACTUALLY SAW him beating her like that? What would they be thinking? Would they be so forgiving after seeing it with their own eyes? Would they still want to be such huge fans? There’s stories about Rihanna hitting him on the night of the incident as well and they say that’s what escalated it. Yet, people only talk about Chris beating her and when it is brought up, people either ignore it or make excuses. She still has many fans, too. What if people were ACTUALLY THERE seeing with THEIR OWN EYES her hitting Chris Brown? Would they be so forgiving then?

I watched a few biopics over the years, but the Ray Charles story with Jamie Foxx is what I’m going to use as an example here. In the movie, he was shown doing drugs and skipping out on his wife for years, amongst other bad things. So many celebrity biopics are this exact same way. Yet, Ray Charles, too, still has many fans. I remember when the movie first came out and hearing so many people praising it. Jamie Foxx even won an Oscar for that movie. If people actually saw Ray Charles doing drugs and leaving with women that weren’t his wife and treating his wife the way he was treating her as the movie depicted, would they still be huge fans?

When most of us hear these stories about celebrities, we usually respond with saying things like, “We shouldn’t judge”, “Nobody’s perfect”, “Everybody makes mistakes”. But would we say that if we saw them or would we be singing a completely different tune?

If we actually saw with our own eyes the bad things these celebrities admit to and get caught doing? If we actually saw them doing massive amounts of drugs, drinking themselves to an early grave, raping someone, killing someone, hurting someone, saying bad things about others? Cheating on someone they claim to love? If we actually saw them doing these things? If we were actually there, watching them with our own eyes, when they were doing these things, would we be so forgiving and still be huge fans?

Or would we be devastated and heartbroken, like Bart Simpson?

Male Rape

Have you seen the movie, Friday After Next? Do you know of the scene where Damon (Terry Crews) tried to rape Money Mike (Katt Williams) in the bathroom while there was a huge party going on? How about Tyler Perry’s movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself? Do you know of the scene where the (married) man April (Taraji P. Henson) was with in the movie tried to rape her niece in the kitchen in the middle of the night?

What was the difference between these two movie scenes? I’ll tell you. One was funny and the other was serious. To be more specific, the one with the man about to be raped was made to be funny. The one with a young female was made to be serious. If you really think about it, lots of movies are like this. If a man is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed, it’s usually always funny. Rarely, if ever, is it portrayed as funny if a woman is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed in a movie or TV show.

It’s pretty disturbing thinking about exactly how many movies and TV shows I have seen over the years, not realizing what they were making a joke out of.

I don’t mean to ruin these movies and TV shows for you guys because I know that’s what a lot of people will tell me in response to this. I know a lot of people enjoy these movies, but I’m just calling it how I see it.

Then, of course, there’s the “don’t drop the soap” joke about male rape in prisons. The fact that this is a joke is proof that lots of people are full aware of men getting raped in jails/prisons, but very little is being done about it and no one takes it seriously.

Why does Hollywood do this? Why does Hollywood make it funny when a man is being raped or sexually harrassed? Please, everyone. Be very mindful of what you watch on television! A lot of it is extremely toxic! It’s brainwashing! This is just one example. I will be pointing out so many more examples of toxic things being promoted in media on my blog in a lot of posts later to come.

This is one huge reason why so many people don’t take male rape seriously. If the media portrays it as a funny thing, then that’s what people are going to see and think of it as. I remember a conversation in high school where one of the boys said, “If a woman rapes you and you’re a man, you’re gay”. There was another one I remember where we were doing an assignment on making an autobiography about ourselves. One of the boys told a story about how he was only a teenager and he had already been shot, stabbed, and raped, and one of the other male classmates said he was gay.

If we don’t start taking male rape seriously, young boys and men will continue to be raped and very little will be done about it. Let’s not forget that rape is a very traumatizing experience. And you don’t have to be a rape victim to know this. What is a young boy or man supposed to do if he gets raped or sexually harrassed and people shame him if he tells someone? How can he deal with his pain and trauma?

A lot of times, as a society, we really don’t know what we’re doing, what we’re laughing at, or how things affect us. We just engage in it because we think it’s cool. We really need to be mindful of this stuff. This type of stuff is killing and destroying so many people. We have to stop and change this immediately.

My heart deeply goes out to all the boys and men who get raped and sexually harrassed by other men or women, but are shamed into not saying anything. The only way we can change this is that we as a society need to wake up and realize that it’s wrong and start doing something about it.

This news article completely proves my point.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-40801782