Should The Size of An Engagement/Wedding Ring Matter?

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I remember we were talking about the sizes of wedding rings in one of my classes when I was in middle school. The rest of the class were saying the size of a wedding ring does matter and you shouldn’t have a small ring. The teacher didn’t agree. They eventually turned to me and asked me my opinion on whether it matters. I said it didn’t. The whole class disagreed and asked me why (Now that I’m thinking about it, I think many of them disagreed only because I said it didn’t matter. Many of my classmates in middle school disagreed with me a lot because they loved the idea of me being wrong about something, being that I was considered the “smart” one). I didn’t really know why it didn’t matter. I just felt like it didn’t matter. So I just said, “Well, because the ring doesn’t matter.”

The teacher was very happy that we shared the same opinion on it, but the class was in total disagreement. They thought that the bigger the ring, the better it is. Now that I look back on this story, I do wonder why the size of rings matter and do they actually matter. 

After some thinking, I think I still hold the same opinion that ring size doesn’t matter, but now, I can explain why, unlike when I was in middle school. The size of an engagement/wedding ring doesn’t matter because what should really matter is that person’s love for you. 

I believe the only reason we believe engagement/wedding ring sizes matter is because we are a very materialistic and “keeping-up-with-the-Jones’s” society. We love showing off and giving value to materialistic things that don’t have any real value just to impress other people.

And now that I’m thinking about it, I do agree with my middle school mindset also that the ring itself doesn’t really matter, either. A ring doesn’t really express someone’s feelings about another person. Even though having a ring is nice, it doesn’t really represent feelings at all. Love is something that can’t be fully expressed with physical, material things because it’s not physical or material. Just because you have or don’t have a ring doesn’t mean a person loves or cares about you less. A ring being big or small doesn’t mean that, either. A person’s actions towards someone else and how they treat them is what really shows someone’s love for another person, not what they can buy.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having an engagement/wedding ring. I just think this society puts more value to it than it needs to have and not enough value into what actually does matter.

Revenge Cheating Is A Waste Of Time

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Many people, especially women, think that the best way to deal with someone cheating on them is to cheat on them back. But I feel that not only is that stupid, it’s a serious waste of your time. I know cheating hurts, especially if it’s from someone you truly loved and cared about and never did anything wrong to them, but the best way to deal with that is to either forgive them (if you want to take them back and continue the relationship and try to fix it) or leave and find someone that will be faithful to you and give you the love you deserve.

“Revenge cheating” is stupid and a waste of time because if you do take this person back that cheated on you just to cheat on them, you shouldn’t have taken them back. When you take someone back after doing you wrong, it’s supposed to mean that you forgive them and want to give them another chance. Taking someone back to “revenge cheat” on them won’t solve anything. It’ll just create an endless cycle of cheating because you’ll be cheating on them and they’ll be cheating on you. And seriously, what’s the point in staying in a relationship that’s like that in the first place? That relationship is already dead and clearly neither one of you are trying to get together and fix it. Why are you still there?

And if you can find someone to go cheat on someone with for “revenge”, you’re clearly with someone who also doesn’t really care about you because if they did, you would actually be in a relationship with them or leave the cheater for that person, not just be with them for sex.

And if you go into a new relationship and cheat on that person when they did nothing to you just because the other person cheated on you is even dumber. In your head, you think you’re hurting the person who cheated on you and hurt you by doing that, but in reality, you are only hurting yourself and you’re trying to rid yourself of that hurt by sleeping with other people and all you’re doing is ruining a relationship that was just fine.

I saw an episode of Steve Wilkos years ago where there was a couple on there and the woman said something along the lines of, “I’m the type that if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you a lot.” And the woman went on to tell the story about how her man cheated on her and because of that, she went and slept with numerous men. They continued to stay together, but all they were doing was cheating on each other the whole time. Like, really, how does this make ANY type of sense?!

That segment is what made me think of this post because, sadly, people really think this is a justifiable way of dealing with cheating and relationship problems when all it’s doing is making things worst!

There is absolutely NO excuse for cheating. NONE AT ALL! This is why when people try to explain it and soften it up, it never makes sense. Cheating is wrong, whether it’s for revenge or simply just you not being able to control your urges and function properly for a relationship. If your relationship is at the point where you feel like cheating is the answer, you need to end that relationship and FAST!