I love this interlude, “Tina Taught Me”, from Solange’s album, A Seat At The Table. The instrumental to “Don’t Touch My Hair” playing in the background makes it even better. Solange’s mother, Tina Knowles, spoke a message I couldn’t agree with more if I wanted to. A message full of being proud of being black. She also talks about how here in America, black people are not allowed to express pride in being black and if we do, it is taken as us being anti-white. The truth is white people are anti-black. They hate our culture. They don’t want us to love our culture and try to push their culture on us. They’ve done this for centuries. This is why our original culture(s), language(s), etc., were stripped away from us and replaced with theirs. I believe this is why when we express pride in loving ourselves and our culture, they take it as us not liking their culture. They take us expressing love and pride in ourselves as rejecting their culture that they’re forcing on us.
When the topic of colorism is brought up, many people have knee jerk reactions to deny that discrimination and disrespect due to being dark skinned is the case. This statement, “It’s not because you’re dark skinned; it’s your attitude”, is one of them. I usually hear people saying it to dark skinned women when they talk about colorism.
I see this, as well as many other knee jerk reactions against colorism accusations, as nothing more than excuses. People don’t want to admit to hating dark skin, so they have all kinds of excuses to cover it up. I’ve seen dark skinned people do nothing, but mind their own business and people still treat them rudely. People still call them names that insult their dark skin. So, it’s not just about attitude.
And if dark skin wasn’t an issue and it was just about attitude, why are there people who tell dark skinned women they’re pretty “to be dark”. Why can’t they just be pretty? To tell someone they’re attractive “to be dark” means you think dark skin usually isn’t attractive to you and now you’re shocked because you see an attractive person that’s dark skinned. And let’s not say people say that because of “preference” because no one has ever told a light skinned or mixed woman that they were pretty “to be light”. I’ve heard people say it the other way around, though: “If you’re ugly and you’re light skinned, I feel sorry for you”, “Being light skinned doesn’t automatically make you pretty”, etc. So, with these statements alone, obviously people feel some kind of way about dark skin. And these statements say a lot about how people view dark skin and light skin. What is it saying if people feel like they have to constantly remind everyone that light skin doesn’t automatically make someone pretty or dark skin doesn’t automatically make someone ugly?
Another thing that makes me believe this statement is a load of crap is a lot of times black men this say to dark skinned women, but not much later, you will hear black men talking about how sexy a Latina or other nonblack woman is when they have attitudes. If attitudes are unattractive, why are they only unattractive on dark skinned black women? Why is it attractive on nonblack women?
There is this one video I remember Tommy Sotomayor doing on dark skinned women and their attitudes. I don’t remember the name of it, but I do remember him saying something like overweight dark skinned women who have horrible attitudes should say to themselves, “I already have two strikes against me.” And I’m guessing he meant they should be nicer, but instead, their attitudes are even worst. First of all, what did he mean by this woman already having “two strikes” against her? While he was trying to make it seem like it was just her attitude in this video, he didn’t realize that he just exposed how people will automatically treat her differently, or I should say NEGATIVELY, because of these “two strikes”, which is her being overweight and her being dark skinned. And because she’s overweight and dark skinned, she has to be “nicer” to get people to like her and treat her right.
There was another video I saw from another YouTuber who said that it’s the attitudes of dark skinned women that make men want to get with light skinned women over them. He said that dark skinned women always complaining about how they are over looked for light skinned women is what makes them unattractive and that light skinned women are more attractive because they’re usually “more confident” than dark skinned women.
I feel like what they gloss over is how society usually treats light skinned women a lot better than they treat dark skinned women. Of course they will have more confidence! If society treated light skinned women like they treat dark skinned women, they would act the exact same way.
I don’t know why so many people in our society try to deny such obvious things when it comes to dark skin, but it really has to stop.
This is the thing people always love tiptoeing around when this topic is brought up. This society treats dark skinned people, especially women, like TRASH, especially if they’re overweight! Yet, people still want these people to just roll over and take it with a smile and say nothing about it.
STOP DENYING COLORISM! STOP IGNORING COLORISM! OPEN YOUR EYES AND START BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELVES!
When we said “Black Lives Matter” because we thought black people were being treated unfairly by law enforcement, what happened? People cried, protested, called us racists and “divisive”, and responded with other movements playing off of it. People came up with All Lives Matter, Blue Lives Matter, and even White Lives Matter.
Somehow so many people found it so offensive because we said Black Lives Matter. But people made all these adverse movements against ours and no one is protesting theirs. What is this telling us?
Even the silly ones, like “Little Booties Matter”, should raise some concern and not be treated as funny. There’s a reason they’re allowing so many people to say that their things matter, but when we said that we matter, everyone freaks out. Something isn’t right.
Why does us saying Black Lives Matter make so many people so uncomfortable? So uncomfortable to where they feel the need replace to word “black” with anything and it’s okay?
There’s many theories about why more black people don’t support black owned businesses. You would think that more black people would shop where their people own the stores and create the products/services, but unfortunately, many do not. Why is this?
I have two main reasons for why I believe this is. The first reason is price. I know how important it is for black people to support their own businesses, so I went searching for some black owned businesses online to shop one day. I have to admit many of the prices at black owned businesses are ridiculous, I’m sorry to say. When other people point out how high the pricing is at a lot of black owned businesses, people love using stereotypical deflecting and shaming tactics, like “You people complain about these prices, but love buying iPhones and Jordans” or “Black people need to stop being so cheap!”, instead of acknowledging and admitting that the prices are a problem and we need to get together and find a solution for it.
If we don’t admit that the prices are a problem, nothing is going to get done about it. The first step in solving a problem is acknowledging and admitting that there is one.
I know the businesses in this society are built on a supply and demand basis, so I know a lot of black business prices are high not because they want them to be, but because the demand for their products and services aren’t as high as it is at other places, being that it is a smaller business. So, since the demand is lower, the prices are higher. The only way we can fix this is if more of us start supporting them, but I know it’s hard for many people to shop at a store where the prices are out of reach to them.
People want to complain about how black people would rather shop at the Walmarts and Targets of the world than black owned businesses, but what they always conveniently fail to tell you is that at Walmart and Target, you can pretty much get anything you want at a good price there. Unfortunately, we can’t do that with many black businesses. People go where they can stretch their dollars and get the most things for their budget. And that isn’t just a black thing. ALL races of people do that.
The next reason I have is location or availability. In many neighborhoods across America, black businesses are few and far in between. Many people have to go a little (or a lot) out of their way to get to a black business. Sadly enough, other races of people have more businesses in our neighborhoods than we do. So, people go to the businesses that are closest to them, where they don’t have to walk or drive too far out of their way. And again, that isn’t just a black thing. All kinds of people shop at places that are near them.
In my opinion, a lot of black businesses are unfortunately inconvenient to many black people. In order for more black people to support other black businesses, I think we have to have our businesses give the convenience (if not MORE convenience) that other businesses give.
I don’t believe black people shop at every other store because they don’t want to support their own people, like I’ve heard some people say. I believe they shop at every other store because every other store is more convenient for them.
Many of us love repeating that statistic about how long a dollar circulates and changes hands in other communities compared to ours, but we always tiptoe around why that is.
I think on this subject we do way too much dancing around the pink elephant in the room. And that pink elephant is that we are VERY FAR behind other races when it comes to business. One of the things that surely proves that we’re behind other races is that other races of people don’t have to pull shaming tactics to get people to shop at their stores. We don’t hear the owners of Walmart and Target saying, “If you can buy XY and Z, you can shop at our stores”. But we feel the need to say it.
The only way we’re going to catch up is if more of us start realizing how important it is that we need businesses and need to create and control our own resources.
There’s no reason for every other race of people to have more businesses in our neighborhoods than we do, especially since it’s not like that in their neighborhoods. We don’t own a bunch of businesses in their neighborhoods. They own their own. It’s been way past due for us to do the same.
There’s a video I stumbled across by a YouTuber named Chrissie, who has a video speaking about why black people don’t shop at black owned businesses, which I have included in this post, and she said pretty much the same thing I’m saying now, but one interesting thing she said that I didn’t think about is that a lot of times, we resent products and services that are made specifically for us.
We hate when other races of people don’t include us in their ads or whatever, but when it’s something created just for us, we hate that it doesn’t include others. We think it’s racist. We’re so stuck on inclusivity, including everybody else into whatever we have, that a lot of us are not ready to accept a business that caters strictly to us.
That’s one thing we have to get out of as well. I don’t think we fully understand that people are supposed to cater to their own people. When they make a product or service, they’re usually not making it to cater to other people, even though they don’t discriminate against who can buy the product. That’s what we need to start realizing. We need to start realizing that nobody is supposed to build and cater to us BUT US!
I love this song by Katy Perry, “Chained To The Rhythm”. I think it explains what’s going on in our society today very vividly. But, I kind of hate it because the song is a very important message and there are people still thinking this song is about fun and paryting and shaming others who are telling them what the song is irrefutably about.
I think people just don’t want to accept the message. There’s no way the message of this song can get miscontrued. You have to just not be listening at all in order to miss the point of this song. It’s straightforward through and through and there are no riddles and metaphors like a lot of other things out here that try to tell people the truth, but tell it in a way that you have to think about it for a while to figure it out.
But anyway, I shared the video because I felt like the video described my feelings about being awake perfectly.
In the beginning of the video, when Katy Perry first walked into the amusement park (fittingly) called “Oblivia”, she’s very happy. That’s what it feels like when you’re living in “Oblivion”. It’s a lot of fun and she’s enjoying everything. So is everyone else. Nothing seems wrong. She doesn’t see any of the chaos that’s going on around her.
Later, she goes into the movie theater. For some reason, she takes off her 3D glasses. She sees Skip Marley walking up to her from out of the screen. She reaches out to him and smiles. I interpret this as him telling her what’s really going on. Once that happens, she suddenly “wakes up”.
Then, she turns around, looking as if she’s frantically trying to tell everyone what’s really going on and everything she just learned and realized, but nobody’s listening and they continue to dance around like nothing’s going on. This is what I feel like when myself, and many others, try to tell the truth and people either don’t listen or deny it.
Afterwards, she gets inside the wheel. She moves for a moment, then stops. Looking as if she’s defeated. This looks like she finally sees what is happening, but probably feels she can’t do much about it to change it. That also kind of looks like she wants to enjoy “Oblivia” again, but can’t because she knows what it really is now. She now knows it’s not real. It’s all FAKE. It’s all a LIE.
Then, there’s the end. Where the camera zooms in on her face and it looks like she has a sad, shocked look in her eyes. Like I said, once you wake up from “Oblivion” and see everything that’s going on, you can never go back. You will feel disturbed and disgusted. Nothing will ever feel the same again.
Just in case if there’s someone who doesn’t know, what I mean about being “awake” has to do with being consciously aware of a lot of the things going on in our society and throughout the world. Not literally awake, like waking up from a good night’s sleep.
And I must admit that I kind of hate being awake. Knowing the things that I know is a blessing and a curse. I’ve come to being awake to a lot of things just within the past year simply by thinking and having shocking revelations that are just irrefutable. My thoughts connected me to things that were right in front of me the whole time. A lot of the things I’ve come to realize is even more important for the masses of black people than anyone else because it effects us more.
It’s a blessing because if I can show and teach people the truth, it will change our society for the better forever. But I hate being awake and it’s a curse because I know the information I have come to realize, which I will be sharing some of it throughout this blog at later times (because it’s too much to talk about in just one post), needs to be seriously heeded by the masses of our society. But I know much of my messages will just fall on deaf ears. Many people will just get offended and argue about the truth that’s right in front of them instead of thinking and reading about it themselves.
The people who are part of the conscious community might not like me saying this, but sometimes, I miss living in what I like to call “Oblivion”, the place in your mind where you are oblivious to everything around you. I miss being “asleep”. Because now that I’m awake, I can’t enjoy the things I used to enjoy anymore. I can’t enjoy the radio. The Internet. Television. Shopping. The foods that I eat. Certain people. Anything. Because I can see right through the B.S. of it all and it makes me sad and angry. The things I have come to know and see about our society is quite disturbing. I just don’t know what to do with myself now. And I know that in order for all this stuff to change, the masses of our society has to wake up, too. Changing this society won’t work with just a few people awake. But sadly, most of them won’t.
And they won’t because I know that once they do, they will realize that they have to give up and change everything they love. They will realize how long they’ve wasted their lives believing lies made up by the people who run our society and living in “Oblivion”. They will also realize exactly how much work that needs to be done to change it and if enough people aren’t awake, just thinking about doing the necessary things that needs to be done to change things will feel like too much.
Once they wake up, many of them will feel like me. Missing “Oblivion”. Missing enjoying the things they used to love, but can’t because they will see a lot of those things are lies and only used to keep us dumbed down. Once you wake up, you can never go back to sleep. Once you wake up, you can never go back to “Oblivion”. Nothing will ever look or feel the same again.
The worst thing about being “awake” is knowing the truth, telling the truth, but everyone else just denies or ignores it. Trying to wake people up is exhausting and discouraging when you’re talking to a bunch of people that just don’t want to.
It’s really sad being awake and seeing exactly how many people are still asleep and no matter what you do or say, you just can’t wake them up. Sometimes, I feel like a person who’s trying to save a bunch of people from a burning house, but the people are just sitting there like they don’t notice the fire.
I’m starting to think I’m not the only one who feels like this when it comes to being awake. I think this is where the phrase “Ignorance is bliss” comes from. When you’re ignorant, everything around you seems fine and okay and you’re happy. But once you learn and see the truth in things for what they are, that fake happy world immediately disappears.
Although it can be discouraging at times, I’m going to try my hardest to never give in to ignorance. I’m going to do whatever I can to make the changes I need to make to adjust to being awake and I’m going to do whatever I can to share as much information as possible to wake up anyone who wants and needs to be.