If We ACTUALLY SAW The Bad Things Celebrities Do, Would We Still Love Them?

I remember an episode from The Simpsons where Bart idolized an actor named Buck McCoy. Bart saw him as a hero until one day, he saw him drunk and found out he was an alcoholic. Bart was crushed. He tore down all his posters and everything he had of Buck. It made me think if this is what celebrities are like in real life. Being total trainwrecks behind the scenes, but on television day in and day out being idolized by millions of people and being seen as heroes. Millions of people look up to them, thinking they’re so perfect and inspiring, and want to be just like them. Then some of those fans end up finding out about them being trainwrecks and are seriously heartbroken.

I thought I was thinking too hard until I think about their music/movies, interviews, biopics, and news stories. They admit to and get caught doing the most craziest and devastating things. They admit to being alcoholics, serious drug addicts, fighting their friends, sleeping around with nobody knows how many people (some of them have admitted that they slept with so many people, they can’t even count themselves!), and the list goes on and on. They even get caught or admit to criminal crimes, such as rape and murder!

So many celebrities do some of the craziest things imaginable, yet so many of us still love them. Even when they get caught on camera doing something crazy, there’s still so many of us who defend and still love them. Why is this?

What I’m thinking is that people have to ACTUALLY SEE WITH THEIR OWN EYES these things that celebrities do, like Bart Simpson did with his idol. I think we downplay the things they do & admit to because we didn’t personally see them doing these things ourselves. It’s much easier for us to cast something out of our heads when we don’t see it ourselves. Also, I think we do this because we still want to love them.

I’m thinking of the time when Ariana Grande got caught on camera licking a donut. What if she was never caught doing that and the store sold that donut to someone without knowing she had licked it? After the video was released, she gave an apology, which I think was filled with an excuse. She said she was just “disgusted with Americans’ eating habits” and “childhood obesity rates”. That shouldn’t be a reason to go lick a donut! To me, the apology only sounded like she was sorry because she got caught. Yet, many people forgave her and she still has so many fans. Would they have forgiven her if they ACTUALLY SAW her doing that? Not on camera in a video. But actually there seeing her do that. How would they feel if they were right behind her watching her as she did that?

I’m thinking of the story of Chris Brown beating Rihanna. I’ve heard rumors saying the story was fake and was an attempt to smear Chris Brown for some reason. I don’t know if it’s fake or not. But let’s stick to saying it’s real for now. So many people forgave him, even Rihanna herself, for beating her like that. Some people forgave him immediately when the story broke. What if people are only saying the story is fake because they don’t want to believe he did it? What if people ACTUALLY SAW him beating her like that? What would they be thinking? Would they be so forgiving after seeing it with their own eyes? Would they still want to be such huge fans? There’s stories about Rihanna hitting him on the night of the incident as well and they say that’s what escalated it. Yet, people only talk about Chris beating her and when it is brought up, people either ignore it or make excuses. She still has many fans, too. What if people were ACTUALLY THERE seeing with THEIR OWN EYES her hitting Chris Brown? Would they be so forgiving then?

I watched a few biopics over the years, but the Ray Charles story with Jamie Foxx is what I’m going to use as an example here. In the movie, he was shown doing drugs and skipping out on his wife for years, amongst other bad things. So many celebrity biopics are this exact same way. Yet, Ray Charles, too, still has many fans. I remember when the movie first came out and hearing so many people praising it. Jamie Foxx even won an Oscar for that movie. If people actually saw Ray Charles doing drugs and leaving with women that weren’t his wife and treating his wife the way he was treating her as the movie depicted, would they still be huge fans?

When most of us hear these stories about celebrities, we usually respond with saying things like, “We shouldn’t judge”, “Nobody’s perfect”, “Everybody makes mistakes”. But would we say that if we saw them or would we be singing a completely different tune?

If we actually saw with our own eyes the bad things these celebrities admit to and get caught doing? If we actually saw them doing massive amounts of drugs, drinking themselves to an early grave, raping someone, killing someone, hurting someone, saying bad things about others? Cheating on someone they claim to love? If we actually saw them doing these things? If we were actually there, watching them with our own eyes, when they were doing these things, would we be so forgiving and still be huge fans?

Or would we be devastated and heartbroken, like Bart Simpson?

Why Do Police Officers Keep Shooting Innocent Black Men For Assuming They Have Guns?

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A week or so ago, a friend of mine told me of the story of Stephon Clark, the 22 year old man who was shot by police in his own grandmother’s backyard because they assumed he was pointing a gun at them, when he was only using a cellphone. They fired 20 shots at this man. 20! Hearing my friend tell me this story broke my heart and made me sick.

An innocent man brutally murdered over absolutely nothing. Him being so young makes it worst. This story makes me think of many other stories I’ve heard of black men being shot by police because they assume they have guns, but they really have nothing. You would think after one case, they would be more careful to avoid incidents like this, but instead, this stuff continues to happen. Why?

Why do we always hear these stories about black men being shot by police over nothing? Why are police always assuming a black man has a gun? Something tells me it’s fear. I’m thinking this type of stuff dates way back in time when white people first encountered black people. I think a lot of white police officers are sorely afraid of black men. I don’t know why. It goes back centuries. Why else have black men been portrayed as threatening and menacing for many years in white media, especially if they’re big in size and height?

Because of this fear, they react in a way they feel that they are protecting themselves and killing the black man before they kill them. These actions are just weird and fear is the only thing that makes sense to me for why these things keep happening.

One thing that I’ve noticed, too, is that usually when we hear these types of stories, dark skinned men are the victims. What is it with white police officers and dark skinned black men? If it’s not fear, what else can it be? I’m really trying to understand.

We can keep making these excuses that we usually make when we hear these stories–the excuses about how it’s “not about race”, “they shouldn’t have ran”, “they should’ve did this or that”, or we can finally open our eyes and see that these stories are ALWAYS about race and something is very wrong with these white police officers.

We’ve heard the stories about many white men shooting up dozens of people in schools and public facilities and still being escorted safely, without even a taze, into custody. But unarmed black men who haven’t committed a single murder get shot dozens of times or get beaten severely or to death when they encounter police. A lot of times, these white people get off and don’t serve any prison time because they’re declared to be “mentally ill” and even have GoFundMe’s set up where they get a lot of money after they were just caught murdering someone.

If an unarmed black man gets killed by police, his past is dug up to try to find dirt on him to justify his murder. A white man can kill nine people in a killing spree and his past is dug up to show he was a “good kid”. He was just “bullied as a child” and had a “horrible childhood”.

If that doesn’t say it’s about race, I don’t know what does.

Should Schools Be All Year Round?

I’ve heard people raising the question of if schools should be all year round for as long as I can remember. They want to take away all breaks that schools get throughout the year, especially summer break. One time when I was asked that, I said yes because children need to learn as much as they can. But now, I don’t think so. At least not yet. The school system is very bad right now. Before they try to make schools all year round, a lot of things need to change first.
With the school system we have now, kids need a break. Teachers need breaks, too. School can be a very stressful place for a lot of kids and teachers. We can’t think that just because they’re kids they don’t get stressed and can go without breaks. Teachers for sure get stressed. I know handling so many kids all day is NOT easy in the slightest.

If schools are going to be all year round, schools need to crack down on bullying a lot more. There are a lot of schools that don’t do that enough. It’s already bad enough that many kids have to deal with bullying all throughout the school year that we have. If schools don’t crack down on bullying, taking away those breaks will make it worst.

I think they should cut down the school day a little, too. Aren’t school days a little too long? I don’t think 7 to 8 hour school days are necessary, especially if there will be no more breaks.

I’ve heard about schools that don’t have heat in them and things like that. Yet, they still have those schools open for students to sit in all day. That’s not right! These schools need to be functioning properly and have everything up to par. Whether all year round or not, there should be no schools like that open if they can’t even provide the basic necessities, like heat, to keep students and teachers warm during the winter.

There needs to be better and more qualified teachers. I know there are many schools that put certain teachers in classes that they aren’t qualified to teach, and as a result, they don’t teach the class well. When I was going to school, I’ve had lots of teachers that didn’t know how to teach. I remember I had one teacher in middle school who only gave us crossword puzzles to do everyday. And another teacher in high school who was barely there to teach the class at all. She would be absent a whole lot. We almost always had a substitute for her class. And when she was there, all she did was show movies (not educational ones, by the way. ACTUAL movies! Like the ones we see in theaters or on TV) or give us assignments out of a current events magazine. Some of the other students liked it, but I always hated it. I go to school to learn and do work. I can watch movies at home! If I’m going to go to school and all we do is watch movies all day, I might as well not come to school at all! The sad thing was, I really liked her as a person. She was nice and she thought I was a brilliant student. She just didn’t do what I thought teachers should do.

And don’t get me started on all the teachers I had throughout my school years where they would just pass out worksheets and then sit behind their desks all day. No kind of instruction or anything. And when a student needed help with their work, they would get angry and didn’t want to help and most likely because they didn’t know how to help! I remember one teacher I had in high school who would always get upset when a student asked him for help. A lot of times, if students had wrong answers, he would embarrass them and laugh at them in front of the whole class. He did that so much, eventually students stopped asking him for help. But then, he would get upset if students are continuing to fail his work and has the nerve to wonder why no one wanted to come to him for help. A lot of students liked him because he cursed and was very funny. I liked him, too. I just didn’t like how he treated students.

I remember going to elementary school and there were teachers and staff that withheld lunch and kept the kids in the hallway just because they were talking. My little sister is in elementary school now and she said that her school did that to her class as well. I KNOW they’re not supposed to do that! Wasn’t free lunch put in schools to ensure that no kids were going hungry? And now, they’re taking it away because of talking?! TALKING?!??? We have teachers and staff that are that stuck up in schools? We need to make sure these types of teachers and staff aren’t in the schools if we decide to make school all year round.

I’ve also seen teachers who are mean to students and think they can talk to them any kind of way. My sister told me all the time about some of the teachers she has who are very snarky to the students. A lot of times for no reason. Schools don’t need teachers like that! They shouldn’t be there at all if they’re going to treat students like that! Schools need teachers who are nice, calm, and patient.

I think classes should be smaller. So many schools try to cram way too many students in one class. I’ve heard of lots of classes that had 20 to 30 students in them. Sometimes, there would be more than that! I think if classes were smaller, it can help cut down on the bullying because it would be easier for teachers to spot it and stop it. It would cut down on distractions because too many people in one place can be very distracting. I think that makes it harder for students to work and pay attention to the lessons being taught. I believe smaller classes can make it easier for teachers to help the students who need a little more help and are falling behind. Helping the students who are falling behind can be tough when there’s too many students. Also, too many students in one class can be very overwhelming for teachers. I think classes should have about 12 students. 15 at the most.

Things need to change to make it better for teachers, too. Many teachers already don’t get paid enough for what they do. If schools are going to be all year round and teachers are still going to be underpaid, that is not going to work out so well. There will be more teacher strikes than ever before.

Also, the students who are coming to school have to be willing to learn and listen to what the teachers say. When I was going to school, I’ve witnessed way too many kids who wanted to come to school to play and talk and not listen to the teachers’ instructions, then have the nerve to get upset when the teachers give them failing grades. Or they get upset because the teachers give them work. What do they think school is for??? I’ve also witnessed those kids who wanted to be rude and talk back to the teachers. Most of the time, for no real reason. Probably just to show off in front of their friends. Those kinds of kids DO NOT need to be anywhere near a school!

I think the best solution for an all year round school is for all schools to practice absolute ZERO TOLERANCE. If a student comes to school everyday, but always wants to be disruptive, disrespectful, and not take in the lessons, they should be expelled. Not suspended. EXPELLED! If students come to school wanting to fight, they should be expelled. If a teacher comes to school everyday and doesn’t teach or give out actual work, they should be fired. If a teacher is being mean and rude to students, they should be fired. Anyone caught bullying should be expelled. To make it a little lenient, everyone can get ONE warning. Just ONE. They shouldn’t have to be told more than once because they should already know the right things to do. If they continue to do those things after that one warning, expelled or fired it should be! I prefer no warning a lot more, though.

School is supposed to be a place for teachers to teach and students to learn. There shouldn’t be anything more than that in schools. Anything other than that, I consider trash to the school and it should be taken out to the dump!

I think all year round school is an excellent idea. I remember hearing someone say somewhere that schools should either shorten or take away summer breaks because students forget too much during that time off. I totally agree with that. I just don’t think it’s the proper time for it right now. If schools make those changes, then they can make them all year round. If not, they can leave the school year the way it is. Many of today’s schools are full of way too much trash!

“I Don’t Care” Is The Biggest Lie People Tell

“I don’t care about my ex’s new boyfriend/girlfriend.”

“I don’t care about Shayla’s new car.”

“I don’t care Ryan got Employee of the Month at work.”

“I don’t care how much money Stella makes.”

“I don’t care Thomas got a promotion on the job.”

“I give zero fucks about what people think and say about me.”

People say “I don’t care” or “I don’t give a fuck” about a lot of things, but it’s probably one of the biggest and common lies ever told.

I remember one time when I was going to high school. The students were taking an ACT/SAT prep exam. The people checking our exams called out a few students who they were very impressed by their writing in the writing section of the exam. I heard one girl say to her group of friends, “Nobody cares because they wrote a paper with big words”. And she kept saying it over and over again. Clearly she did or she wouldn’t have said anything at all! And definitely wouldn’t have kept going on and on about it. She cared because she was more than likely upset that the teachers complimented them on their writing and not hers.

This is what I hear a lot of people doing. They see or hear about something and they just have to say they “don’t care” or “don’t give a fuck” about it, even if nobody said anything to them specifically about it. A lot of times, they would bring up something themselves just to say they “don’t care” about it. And they talk about it over and over again. I hear so many people say “I don’t care” so much, I’m convinced they don’t even know what it actually means.

When they do that, they already know that they care. They say they give “zero fucks” about it, but in reality, they give a million! What they’re really doing is trying to convince themselves and other people around them that they don’t care. They have to convince other people that they don’t care because they know they care, but they don’t want other people to know that they do. They are probably ashamed and embarrassed that they care. They hate that they care.

But what nobody can do is convince themselves of something they know is not true. No one can lie to or fool themselves, no matter how hard they try.

Telling People To “Not Respond” To Negativity Just Might Be The Oldest Trick In The Book

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I’ve always heard people say “Just ignore it”, “Just ignore it”, or “Don’t Let It Bother You”, to other people who are dealing with someone who bothers them or does something negative to them. I used to agree and go along with that advice. But now, I believe it’s just a trick to make people passive.

I think people just want to be able to do bad things to others and not deal with any repercussions or guilt from doing it. I’m not a violent person by any means, but some people deserve to have all the teeth knocked out of their mouths for the things they say and do to other people!

People steal from others. They bully others. They say and do rude things. They spread rumors about others that aren’t even true. And, sometimes, there are people who say and spread around untrue things about people they don’t even know. I think it’s wrong to tell someone to “just ignore” things like this if they’re dealing with it. In a lot of cases, “ignoring it” just makes people do it more because they think you’re giving them the impression that they can get away with it or they just want a response out of you.

Some people are just miserable with their lives and want to screw with other people to make themselves feel better and make other people as miserable as they are. I also believe that some people only tell other people to “not respond” to negativity because the negativity isn’t happening to them and they don’t know exactly how the other person feels about it.

I think it’s weird that people do bad things to others, but if the other people retaliate, they’re looked at as the bad guys for “letting negativity get to them”. People have even made it to where if a person defends themselves against a false, negative rumor about them, it means that they’re “guilty” of it or it somehow makes the rumor true. What?!? How does things get this twisted?!

I don’t think people should just ignore and hold all that negativity in. I get the feeling that it’s really bad for anyone’s health. I think that causes mental instabilities, insecurities, as well as murders (There’s only so much people can take before they actually snap). I think people should do something about the negativity right there and then. People are wrong as all get out sometimes and need to be told so. It doesn’t always have to resort to violence, though. If it does, then they more than likely deserved it anyway.

I think people should at least be able to tell those people about how that stuff makes them feel, though, if violence isn’t an option. If someone is doing or saying something bad to someone else, the other person should always be able to defend themselves, no matter if it’s verbally or physically. Not roll over and just let them do it and get away with it.

Black Men & Black Women Blaming Each Other For The Problems In Their Community

One growing trend I’m seeing on the Internet more & more is black men and black women blaming each other for the problems in the black community. There are countless social media posts and videos where black men and black women are spewing hate about each other, blaming each other for everything wrong with our race, and getting tons of reactions and views for it.

Black men and black women are blaming each other for the self hate in our communities. Black men say black women are the cause because they’re always wearing straight hair and shame their daughters’ “nappy” hair while doing it and are very quick to straighten it. Black women say black men are the cause because they shame and refuse to date women who don’t straighten their hair and are more attracted to them when they wear weave than their real hair.

Black women say black men shame dark skinned women and refuse to date them. Black men say that black women shamed them for their dark skin and have horrible attitudes towards them, which is why they refuse to date them. And say that black mothers shame their sons by comparing them to their fathers in a very disrespectful manner.

They’re blaming each other for why we don’t have businesses in our communities. Black women say that black men aren’t building and give all of their money to white women. Black men say that black women give all their money to Asians by buying fake hair and nails.

They’re blaming each other for the high single mother rate in the black community. Black men say black women are single mothers because they like thugs and choose poorly in men to have children with. Black women say that it’s because black men are afraid and running away from their responsibilities.

They’re blaming each other for the high crime rate. Black women say it’s because black men are violent and don’t know how to act. Black men say it’s because of black single mothers and how they’re poorly raising young black boys.

There are so many other examples. The sad part about this is that not only are we as black people treating each other as the enemy for our problems and not our true enemies and oppressors, nobody is taking responsibility for these problems. There’s nothing but a bunch of finger pointing. So, what’s going to happen? NOTHING! The problems are going to continue to persist and we will continue blaming each other. It’s not going to do anything but get worst.

Also, we have to be very careful about how we talk about each other publicly. Saying these things about each other and ourselves will leave us wide open to stereotyping. And when it comes time to fight for real justice, our oppressors can use all these things we say about each other against us to deny us the justice we need. For instance, if we get angry about a white person calling a black person a “nigger”, they can use the fact that we call each other and ourselves that against us to get out of trouble. Or if we’re being unfairly treated or abused somewhere and we speak out about it, they will bring up “black on black crime”.

We need to come together, work together to find the root of these problems and fix them ourselves because if we don’t fix them, no one else will.

The fact that we do all this finger pointing is proof that BOTH black men AND black women are doing things to contribute to the problems in the black community. The things that we’re saying that the other side is doing says it all. And one side is NOT more guilty than the other. BOTH sides are EQUALLY guilty.

I really think we do so much negative talking about each other because we hate ourselves and fear our oppressors. I also think we do this because we are frustrated with our problems, but are too afraid to do what we have to do to face and fix them. We take this hate and fear out on each other. We have to stop and start healing.