It’s Not Because You’re Dark Skinned. It’s Your Attitude

When the topic of colorism is brought up, many people have knee jerk reactions to deny that discrimination and disrespect due to being dark skinned is the case. This statement, “It’s not because you’re dark skinned; it’s your attitude”, is one of them. I usually hear people saying it to dark skinned women when they talk about colorism.

I see this, as well as many other knee jerk reactions against colorism accusations, as nothing more than excuses. People don’t want to admit to hating dark skin, so they have all kinds of excuses to cover it up. I’ve seen dark skinned people do nothing, but mind their own business and people still treat them rudely. People still call them names that insult their dark skin. So, it’s not just about attitude.

And if dark skin wasn’t an issue and it was just about attitude, why are there people who tell dark skinned women they’re pretty “to be dark”. Why can’t they just be pretty? To tell someone they’re attractive “to be dark” means you think dark skin usually isn’t attractive to you and now you’re shocked because you see an attractive person that’s dark skinned. And let’s not say people say that because of “preference” because no one has ever told a light skinned or mixed woman that they were pretty “to be light”. I’ve heard people say it the other way around, though: “If you’re ugly and you’re light skinned, I feel sorry for you”, “Being light skinned doesn’t automatically make you pretty”, etc. So, with these statements alone, obviously people feel some kind of way about dark skin. And these statements say a lot about how people view dark skin and light skin. What is it saying if people feel like they have to constantly remind everyone that light skin doesn’t automatically make someone pretty or dark skin doesn’t automatically make someone ugly?

Another thing that makes me believe this statement is a load of crap is a lot of times black men this say to dark skinned women, but not much later, you will hear black men talking about how sexy a Latina or other nonblack woman is when they have attitudes. If attitudes are unattractive, why are they only unattractive on dark skinned black women? Why is it attractive on nonblack women?

There is this one video I remember Tommy Sotomayor doing on dark skinned women and their attitudes. I don’t remember the name of it, but I do remember him saying something like overweight dark skinned women who have horrible attitudes should say to themselves, “I already have two strikes against me.” And I’m guessing he meant they should be nicer, but instead, their attitudes are even worst. First of all, what did he mean by this woman already having “two strikes” against her? While he was trying to make it seem like it was just her attitude in this video, he didn’t realize that he just exposed how people will automatically treat her differently, or I should say NEGATIVELY, because of these “two strikes”, which is her being overweight and her being dark skinned. And because she’s overweight and dark skinned, she has to be “nicer” to get people to like her and treat her right.

There was another video I saw from another YouTuber who said that it’s the attitudes of dark skinned women that make men want to get with light skinned women over them. He said that dark skinned women always complaining about how they are over looked for light skinned women is what makes them unattractive and that light skinned women are more attractive because they’re usually “more confident” than dark skinned women.

I feel like what they gloss over is how society usually treats light skinned women a lot better than they treat dark skinned women. Of course they will have more confidence! If society treated light skinned women like they treat dark skinned women, they would act the exact same way.

I don’t know why so many people in our society try to deny such obvious things when it comes to dark skin, but it really has to stop.

This is the thing people always love tiptoeing around when this topic is brought up. This society treats dark skinned people, especially women, like TRASH, especially if they’re overweight! Yet, people still want these people to just roll over and take it with a smile and say nothing about it.

STOP DENYING COLORISM! STOP IGNORING COLORISM! OPEN YOUR EYES AND START BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELVES!

Was Slavery A Choice?

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Kanye West said slavery was a choice. Dr. Claude Anderson said slavery was a choice. Tommy Sotomayor said slavery was a choice. So many others said slavery was a choice and a lot of people agreed. But I have to say I heavily disagree. This statement isn’t true in the slightest.

If people read just one history book or article, they will know that there were tons of slave rebellions. There were tons of slaves who killed themselves and their own children rather than living the rest of their lives as slaves. There were tons of slaves who tried to run away. Some were successful. Some were unsuccessful. There were tons of abolitionists who fought to end slavery. Slaves didn’t just sit there and say, “Okay. I’ll be a slave.” They always fought back. It’s just that fighting wasn’t enough to end it. Another thing to take into account, too, is that a lot of slave masters had weapons to use to keep slaves in line. A lot of the slaves didn’t have weapons to protect themselves. Slave masters were doing all kinds of evil things to slaves in front of all the other slaves to keep them in line. They were traumatizing them! Another thing, too, is that the government agreed and passed laws to keep slavery around. The government wasn’t on the slaves’ side at all. I feel like this should be common sense, but for some weird reason, for some people, it isn’t.

Saying “slavery was a choice” kind of sounds like victim blaming to me. It sounds just like saying the millions of people who get robbed all over the world at gunpoint chose to be robbed because they “could’ve fought back”. The millions of men, women, and children who get raped all over the world chose to be raped because they “should’ve fought back”. That’s what that sounds like to me! Blaming the victims instead of the people who are committing the actual crime. It’s sickens me to know that people out here have that type of mentality!

It sounds like people don’t want to blame and hold slave masters accountable for what they’ve done. I think that is a fear and slave mentality right there. People blame the slaves because they are afraid to blame the slave masters. It sounds like black people blaming each other for their situation instead of blaming the obvious culprit(s). They do this out of hate (for themselves and each other), fear, and frustration.

I believe that this slave blaming is the reason why slavery still exists today in lots of other places across the world. No person should have to physically fight to say they don’t want to be a slave. Just like a person shouldn’t have to physically fight to say they don’t want to be robbed or raped. If a person tries to force slavery or crime on a person that doesn’t want it, then THAT person is wrong. NOT the person that got hurt! The slave masters chose slavery, NOT the slaves!

I believe slavery all over the world would be abolished today if everyone held slave masters accountable for what they’re doing and what they’ve done. When we blame the slaves for what happened to them, I think that’s us not taking slavery as seriously as we should.

If anybody thinks slavery was a “choice”, they have no sense of history and don’t understand how slavery works at all.

Why Do We Laugh At These Things?

STEVIE WONDER:

Stevie Wonder jokes and memes run rampant on the Internet. As a matter of fact, people have been making blind jokes about Stevie Wonder for as long as I can remember. I’ve been hearing them since I was a kid. Tons of people made jokes and memes about him being blind. I must admit that I used to laugh at quite a few of them. But now that I look back on it, I think it’s pretty sickening and distasteful to make jokes about someone for being blind.

Being blind is a serious thing and is the furthest thing from a laughing matter. I believe most people are only okay with telling these jokes and laughing at them because they don’t understand blindness. They’re not blind themselves and they’re not close to anyone who’s blind. If they were, they wouldn’t think blindness is funny at all and would be very offended and upset at people for making fun of them or their loved one for being blind.

I also think people make fun of Stevie Wonder for being blind because he is famous. I don’t think people would make jokes and memes out of a regular blind person. If they did, they would be dragged and shamed all over the Internet, would probably make the news for bullying, and all of their social media accounts would be terminated. But since Stevie is a celebrity, people don’t take it as seriously.

I can only imagine what life would be like if I were blind. Sight is definitely something I think so many of us take for granted. Not being able to see for the rest of your life sounds like a very sad and horrible thing. Millions of people across the world have to live with this, yet this is what we choose to laugh and make jokes about?

RODNEY KING:
Jokes about Rodney King is another thing I’ve been hearing since I was a kid. I would hear comedians and people around me making jokes about him getting beat. Since people thought it was so funny, I thought he got beat up by a woman, another man, or a group of men. But as a child, I still thought it was weird that people were laughing at him getting beat, regardless of who beat him. As I grew up, I later learned and found out that he was beaten by police.

After finding out he was beaten by police, I always thought, if he was beaten by police, why is it so funny? I’m still wondering why it’s funny. Somebody please answer this for me and help me. Why is someone getting beat up by police funny? Isn’t this the same incident that sparked the 1992 LA riots? Isn’t an incident like this the same thing Black Lives Matter is fighting against today? How did this become so funny? Why are people laughing at the very same thing people rioted and got killed for? Why?

RIHANNA:
Ever since the incident between her and Chris Brown happened, people have been making jokes about it. Snapchat even made a distasteful poll that said ‘Would You Rather Slap Rihanna or Punch Chris Brown?’, which was obviously making fun of the incident. Rihanna’s response to the poll costed Snapchat to lose millions of dollars in shares. Jokes about Ike and Tina Turner, Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown, and many other celebrity domestic violence disputes have ran rampant for many, many years as well. And just like the Stevie Wonder jokes, I think people only make jokes about them because they’re celebrities. People are a whole lot less likely to make a joke about a regular couple suffering from domestic violence.

I’ve heard people make jokes about people getting raped, children being molested, and child abuse, amongst other distasteful and insensitive things.

We can keep saying it’s “just a joke” to justify these jokes all we want, but some things shouldn’t be made into a joke and should be taken seriously. Everything can’t be made into a joke.

I think this proves that our society is sick. There are so many things I see and hear people making jokes about that they really shouldn’t. I think most people in our society are mentally ill and desensitized to things they should be highly sensitive to.

If We ACTUALLY SAW The Bad Things Celebrities Do, Would We Still Love Them?

I remember an episode from The Simpsons where Bart idolized an actor named Buck McCoy. Bart saw him as a hero until one day, he saw him drunk and found out he was an alcoholic. Bart was crushed. He tore down all his posters and everything he had of Buck. It made me think if this is what celebrities are like in real life. Being total trainwrecks behind the scenes, but on television day in and day out being idolized by millions of people and being seen as heroes. Millions of people look up to them, thinking they’re so perfect and inspiring, and want to be just like them. Then some of those fans end up finding out about them being trainwrecks and are seriously heartbroken.

I thought I was thinking too hard until I think about their music/movies, interviews, biopics, and news stories. They admit to and get caught doing the most craziest and devastating things. They admit to being alcoholics, serious drug addicts, fighting their friends, sleeping around with nobody knows how many people (some of them have admitted that they slept with so many people, they can’t even count themselves!), and the list goes on and on. They even get caught or admit to criminal crimes, such as rape and murder!

So many celebrities do some of the craziest things imaginable, yet so many of us still love them. Even when they get caught on camera doing something crazy, there’s still so many of us who defend and still love them. Why is this?

What I’m thinking is that people have to ACTUALLY SEE WITH THEIR OWN EYES these things that celebrities do, like Bart Simpson did with his idol. I think we downplay the things they do & admit to because we didn’t personally see them doing these things ourselves. It’s much easier for us to cast something out of our heads when we don’t see it ourselves. Also, I think we do this because we still want to love them.

I’m thinking of the time when Ariana Grande got caught on camera licking a donut. What if she was never caught doing that and the store sold that donut to someone without knowing she had licked it? After the video was released, she gave an apology, which I think was filled with an excuse. She said she was just “disgusted with Americans’ eating habits” and “childhood obesity rates”. That shouldn’t be a reason to go lick a donut! To me, the apology only sounded like she was sorry because she got caught. Yet, many people forgave her and she still has so many fans. Would they have forgiven her if they ACTUALLY SAW her doing that? Not on camera in a video. But actually there seeing her do that. How would they feel if they were right behind her watching her as she did that?

I’m thinking of the story of Chris Brown beating Rihanna. I’ve heard rumors saying the story was fake and was an attempt to smear Chris Brown for some reason. I don’t know if it’s fake or not. But let’s stick to saying it’s real for now. So many people forgave him, even Rihanna herself, for beating her like that. Some people forgave him immediately when the story broke. What if people are only saying the story is fake because they don’t want to believe he did it? What if people ACTUALLY SAW him beating her like that? What would they be thinking? Would they be so forgiving after seeing it with their own eyes? Would they still want to be such huge fans? There’s stories about Rihanna hitting him on the night of the incident as well and they say that’s what escalated it. Yet, people only talk about Chris beating her and when it is brought up, people either ignore it or make excuses. She still has many fans, too. What if people were ACTUALLY THERE seeing with THEIR OWN EYES her hitting Chris Brown? Would they be so forgiving then?

I watched a few biopics over the years, but the Ray Charles story with Jamie Foxx is what I’m going to use as an example here. In the movie, he was shown doing drugs and skipping out on his wife for years, amongst other bad things. So many celebrity biopics are this exact same way. Yet, Ray Charles, too, still has many fans. I remember when the movie first came out and hearing so many people praising it. Jamie Foxx even won an Oscar for that movie. If people actually saw Ray Charles doing drugs and leaving with women that weren’t his wife and treating his wife the way he was treating her as the movie depicted, would they still be huge fans?

When most of us hear these stories about celebrities, we usually respond with saying things like, “We shouldn’t judge”, “Nobody’s perfect”, “Everybody makes mistakes”. But would we say that if we saw them or would we be singing a completely different tune?

If we actually saw with our own eyes the bad things these celebrities admit to and get caught doing? If we actually saw them doing massive amounts of drugs, drinking themselves to an early grave, raping someone, killing someone, hurting someone, saying bad things about others? Cheating on someone they claim to love? If we actually saw them doing these things? If we were actually there, watching them with our own eyes, when they were doing these things, would we be so forgiving and still be huge fans?

Or would we be devastated and heartbroken, like Bart Simpson?

Why Do Police Officers Keep Shooting Innocent Black Men For Assuming They Have Guns?

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A week or so ago, a friend of mine told me of the story of Stephon Clark, the 22 year old man who was shot by police in his own grandmother’s backyard because they assumed he was pointing a gun at them, when he was only using a cellphone. They fired 20 shots at this man. 20! Hearing my friend tell me this story broke my heart and made me sick.

An innocent man brutally murdered over absolutely nothing. Him being so young makes it worst. This story makes me think of many other stories I’ve heard of black men being shot by police because they assume they have guns, but they really have nothing. You would think after one case, they would be more careful to avoid incidents like this, but instead, this stuff continues to happen. Why?

Why do we always hear these stories about black men being shot by police over nothing? Why are police always assuming a black man has a gun? Something tells me it’s fear. I’m thinking this type of stuff dates way back in time when white people first encountered black people. I think a lot of white police officers are sorely afraid of black men. I don’t know why. It goes back centuries. Why else have black men been portrayed as threatening and menacing for many years in white media, especially if they’re big in size and height?

Because of this fear, they react in a way they feel that they are protecting themselves and killing the black man before they kill them. These actions are just weird and fear is the only thing that makes sense to me for why these things keep happening.

One thing that I’ve noticed, too, is that usually when we hear these types of stories, dark skinned men are the victims. What is it with white police officers and dark skinned black men? If it’s not fear, what else can it be? I’m really trying to understand.

We can keep making these excuses that we usually make when we hear these stories–the excuses about how it’s “not about race”, “they shouldn’t have ran”, “they should’ve did this or that”, or we can finally open our eyes and see that these stories are ALWAYS about race and something is very wrong with these white police officers.

We’ve heard the stories about many white men shooting up dozens of people in schools and public facilities and still being escorted safely, without even a taze, into custody. But unarmed black men who haven’t committed a single murder get shot dozens of times or get beaten severely or to death when they encounter police. A lot of times, these white people get off and don’t serve any prison time because they’re declared to be “mentally ill” and even have GoFundMe’s set up where they get a lot of money after they were just caught murdering someone.

If an unarmed black man gets killed by police, his past is dug up to try to find dirt on him to justify his murder. A white man can kill nine people in a killing spree and his past is dug up to show he was a “good kid”. He was just “bullied as a child” and had a “horrible childhood”.

If that doesn’t say it’s about race, I don’t know what does.

Should Schools Be All Year Round?

I’ve heard people raising the question of if schools should be all year round for as long as I can remember. They want to take away all breaks that schools get throughout the year, especially summer break. One time when I was asked that, I said yes because children need to learn as much as they can. But now, I don’t think so. At least not yet. The school system is very bad right now. Before they try to make schools all year round, a lot of things need to change first.
With the school system we have now, kids need a break. Teachers need breaks, too. School can be a very stressful place for a lot of kids and teachers. We can’t think that just because they’re kids they don’t get stressed and can go without breaks. Teachers for sure get stressed. I know handling so many kids all day is NOT easy in the slightest.

If schools are going to be all year round, schools need to crack down on bullying a lot more. There are a lot of schools that don’t do that enough. It’s already bad enough that many kids have to deal with bullying all throughout the school year that we have. If schools don’t crack down on bullying, taking away those breaks will make it worst.

I think they should cut down the school day a little, too. Aren’t school days a little too long? I don’t think 7 to 8 hour school days are necessary, especially if there will be no more breaks.

I’ve heard about schools that don’t have heat in them and things like that. Yet, they still have those schools open for students to sit in all day. That’s not right! These schools need to be functioning properly and have everything up to par. Whether all year round or not, there should be no schools like that open if they can’t even provide the basic necessities, like heat, to keep students and teachers warm during the winter.

There needs to be better and more qualified teachers. I know there are many schools that put certain teachers in classes that they aren’t qualified to teach, and as a result, they don’t teach the class well. When I was going to school, I’ve had lots of teachers that didn’t know how to teach. I remember I had one teacher in middle school who only gave us crossword puzzles to do everyday. And another teacher in high school who was barely there to teach the class at all. She would be absent a whole lot. We almost always had a substitute for her class. And when she was there, all she did was show movies (not educational ones, by the way. ACTUAL movies! Like the ones we see in theaters or on TV) or give us assignments out of a current events magazine. Some of the other students liked it, but I always hated it. I go to school to learn and do work. I can watch movies at home! If I’m going to go to school and all we do is watch movies all day, I might as well not come to school at all! The sad thing was, I really liked her as a person. She was nice and she thought I was a brilliant student. She just didn’t do what I thought teachers should do.

And don’t get me started on all the teachers I had throughout my school years where they would just pass out worksheets and then sit behind their desks all day. No kind of instruction or anything. And when a student needed help with their work, they would get angry and didn’t want to help and most likely because they didn’t know how to help! I remember one teacher I had in high school who would always get upset when a student asked him for help. A lot of times, if students had wrong answers, he would embarrass them and laugh at them in front of the whole class. He did that so much, eventually students stopped asking him for help. But then, he would get upset if students are continuing to fail his work and has the nerve to wonder why no one wanted to come to him for help. A lot of students liked him because he cursed and was very funny. I liked him, too. I just didn’t like how he treated students.

I remember going to elementary school and there were teachers and staff that withheld lunch and kept the kids in the hallway just because they were talking. My little sister is in elementary school now and she said that her school did that to her class as well. I KNOW they’re not supposed to do that! Wasn’t free lunch put in schools to ensure that no kids were going hungry? And now, they’re taking it away because of talking?! TALKING?!??? We have teachers and staff that are that stuck up in schools? We need to make sure these types of teachers and staff aren’t in the schools if we decide to make school all year round.

I’ve also seen teachers who are mean to students and think they can talk to them any kind of way. My sister told me all the time about some of the teachers she has who are very snarky to the students. A lot of times for no reason. Schools don’t need teachers like that! They shouldn’t be there at all if they’re going to treat students like that! Schools need teachers who are nice, calm, and patient.

I think classes should be smaller. So many schools try to cram way too many students in one class. I’ve heard of lots of classes that had 20 to 30 students in them. Sometimes, there would be more than that! I think if classes were smaller, it can help cut down on the bullying because it would be easier for teachers to spot it and stop it. It would cut down on distractions because too many people in one place can be very distracting. I think that makes it harder for students to work and pay attention to the lessons being taught. I believe smaller classes can make it easier for teachers to help the students who need a little more help and are falling behind. Helping the students who are falling behind can be tough when there’s too many students. Also, too many students in one class can be very overwhelming for teachers. I think classes should have about 12 students. 15 at the most.

Things need to change to make it better for teachers, too. Many teachers already don’t get paid enough for what they do. If schools are going to be all year round and teachers are still going to be underpaid, that is not going to work out so well. There will be more teacher strikes than ever before.

Also, the students who are coming to school have to be willing to learn and listen to what the teachers say. When I was going to school, I’ve witnessed way too many kids who wanted to come to school to play and talk and not listen to the teachers’ instructions, then have the nerve to get upset when the teachers give them failing grades. Or they get upset because the teachers give them work. What do they think school is for??? I’ve also witnessed those kids who wanted to be rude and talk back to the teachers. Most of the time, for no real reason. Probably just to show off in front of their friends. Those kinds of kids DO NOT need to be anywhere near a school!

I think the best solution for an all year round school is for all schools to practice absolute ZERO TOLERANCE. If a student comes to school everyday, but always wants to be disruptive, disrespectful, and not take in the lessons, they should be expelled. Not suspended. EXPELLED! If students come to school wanting to fight, they should be expelled. If a teacher comes to school everyday and doesn’t teach or give out actual work, they should be fired. If a teacher is being mean and rude to students, they should be fired. Anyone caught bullying should be expelled. To make it a little lenient, everyone can get ONE warning. Just ONE. They shouldn’t have to be told more than once because they should already know the right things to do. If they continue to do those things after that one warning, expelled or fired it should be! I prefer no warning a lot more, though.

School is supposed to be a place for teachers to teach and students to learn. There shouldn’t be anything more than that in schools. Anything other than that, I consider trash to the school and it should be taken out to the dump!

I think all year round school is an excellent idea. I remember hearing someone say somewhere that schools should either shorten or take away summer breaks because students forget too much during that time off. I totally agree with that. I just don’t think it’s the proper time for it right now. If schools make those changes, then they can make them all year round. If not, they can leave the school year the way it is. Many of today’s schools are full of way too much trash!

“I Don’t Care” Is The Biggest Lie People Tell

“I don’t care about my ex’s new boyfriend/girlfriend.”

“I don’t care about Shayla’s new car.”

“I don’t care Ryan got Employee of the Month at work.”

“I don’t care how much money Stella makes.”

“I don’t care Thomas got a promotion on the job.”

“I give zero fucks about what people think and say about me.”

People say “I don’t care” or “I don’t give a fuck” about a lot of things, but it’s probably one of the biggest and common lies ever told.

I remember one time when I was going to high school. The students were taking an ACT/SAT prep exam. The people checking our exams called out a few students who they were very impressed by their writing in the writing section of the exam. I heard one girl say to her group of friends, “Nobody cares because they wrote a paper with big words”. And she kept saying it over and over again. Clearly she did or she wouldn’t have said anything at all! And definitely wouldn’t have kept going on and on about it. She cared because she was more than likely upset that the teachers complimented them on their writing and not hers.

This is what I hear a lot of people doing. They see or hear about something and they just have to say they “don’t care” or “don’t give a fuck” about it, even if nobody said anything to them specifically about it. A lot of times, they would bring up something themselves just to say they “don’t care” about it. And they talk about it over and over again. I hear so many people say “I don’t care” so much, I’m convinced they don’t even know what it actually means.

When they do that, they already know that they care. They say they give “zero fucks” about it, but in reality, they give a million! What they’re really doing is trying to convince themselves and other people around them that they don’t care. They have to convince other people that they don’t care because they know they care, but they don’t want other people to know that they do. They are probably ashamed and embarrassed that they care. They hate that they care.

But what nobody can do is convince themselves of something they know is not true. No one can lie to or fool themselves, no matter how hard they try.