If We ACTUALLY SAW The Bad Things Celebrities Do, Would We Still Love Them?

I remember an episode from The Simpsons where Bart idolized an actor named Buck McCoy. Bart saw him as a hero until one day, he saw him drunk and found out he was an alcoholic. Bart was crushed. He tore down all his posters and everything he had of Buck. It made me think if this is what celebrities are like in real life. Being total trainwrecks behind the scenes, but on television day in and day out being idolized by millions of people and being seen as heroes. Millions of people look up to them, thinking they’re so perfect and inspiring, and want to be just like them. Then some of those fans end up finding out about them being trainwrecks and are seriously heartbroken.

I thought I was thinking too hard until I think about their music/movies, interviews, biopics, and news stories. They admit to and get caught doing the most craziest and devastating things. They admit to being alcoholics, serious drug addicts, fighting their friends, sleeping around with nobody knows how many people (some of them have admitted that they slept with so many people, they can’t even count themselves!), and the list goes on and on. They even get caught or admit to criminal crimes, such as rape and murder!

So many celebrities do some of the craziest things imaginable, yet so many of us still love them. Even when they get caught on camera doing something crazy, there’s still so many of us who defend and still love them. Why is this?

What I’m thinking is that people have to ACTUALLY SEE WITH THEIR OWN EYES these things that celebrities do, like Bart Simpson did with his idol. I think we downplay the things they do & admit to because we didn’t personally see them doing these things ourselves. It’s much easier for us to cast something out of our heads when we don’t see it ourselves. Also, I think we do this because we still want to love them.

I’m thinking of the time when Ariana Grande got caught on camera licking a donut. What if she was never caught doing that and the store sold that donut to someone without knowing she had licked it? After the video was released, she gave an apology, which I think was filled with an excuse. She said she was just “disgusted with Americans’ eating habits” and “childhood obesity rates”. That shouldn’t be a reason to go lick a donut! To me, the apology only sounded like she was sorry because she got caught. Yet, many people forgave her and she still has so many fans. Would they have forgiven her if they ACTUALLY SAW her doing that? Not on camera in a video. But actually there seeing her do that. How would they feel if they were right behind her watching her as she did that?

I’m thinking of the story of Chris Brown beating Rihanna. I’ve heard rumors saying the story was fake and was an attempt to smear Chris Brown for some reason. I don’t know if it’s fake or not. But let’s stick to saying it’s real for now. So many people forgave him, even Rihanna herself, for beating her like that. Some people forgave him immediately when the story broke. What if people are only saying the story is fake because they don’t want to believe he did it? What if people ACTUALLY SAW him beating her like that? What would they be thinking? Would they be so forgiving after seeing it with their own eyes? Would they still want to be such huge fans? There’s stories about Rihanna hitting him on the night of the incident as well and they say that’s what escalated it. Yet, people only talk about Chris beating her and when it is brought up, people either ignore it or make excuses. She still has many fans, too. What if people were ACTUALLY THERE seeing with THEIR OWN EYES her hitting Chris Brown? Would they be so forgiving then?

I watched a few biopics over the years, but the Ray Charles story with Jamie Foxx is what I’m going to use as an example here. In the movie, he was shown doing drugs and skipping out on his wife for years, amongst other bad things. So many celebrity biopics are this exact same way. Yet, Ray Charles, too, still has many fans. I remember when the movie first came out and hearing so many people praising it. Jamie Foxx even won an Oscar for that movie. If people actually saw Ray Charles doing drugs and leaving with women that weren’t his wife and treating his wife the way he was treating her as the movie depicted, would they still be huge fans?

When most of us hear these stories about celebrities, we usually respond with saying things like, “We shouldn’t judge”, “Nobody’s perfect”, “Everybody makes mistakes”. But would we say that if we saw them or would we be singing a completely different tune?

If we actually saw with our own eyes the bad things these celebrities admit to and get caught doing? If we actually saw them doing massive amounts of drugs, drinking themselves to an early grave, raping someone, killing someone, hurting someone, saying bad things about others? Cheating on someone they claim to love? If we actually saw them doing these things? If we were actually there, watching them with our own eyes, when they were doing these things, would we be so forgiving and still be huge fans?

Or would we be devastated and heartbroken, like Bart Simpson?

Should Schools Be All Year Round?

I’ve heard people raising the question of if schools should be all year round for as long as I can remember. They want to take away all breaks that schools get throughout the year, especially summer break. One time when I was asked that, I said yes because children need to learn as much as they can. But now, I don’t think so. At least not yet. The school system is very bad right now. Before they try to make schools all year round, a lot of things need to change first.
With the school system we have now, kids need a break. Teachers need breaks, too. School can be a very stressful place for a lot of kids and teachers. We can’t think that just because they’re kids they don’t get stressed and can go without breaks. Teachers for sure get stressed. I know handling so many kids all day is NOT easy in the slightest.

If schools are going to be all year round, schools need to crack down on bullying a lot more. There are a lot of schools that don’t do that enough. It’s already bad enough that many kids have to deal with bullying all throughout the school year that we have. If schools don’t crack down on bullying, taking away those breaks will make it worst.

I think they should cut down the school day a little, too. Aren’t school days a little too long? I don’t think 7 to 8 hour school days are necessary, especially if there will be no more breaks.

I’ve heard about schools that don’t have heat in them and things like that. Yet, they still have those schools open for students to sit in all day. That’s not right! These schools need to be functioning properly and have everything up to par. Whether all year round or not, there should be no schools like that open if they can’t even provide the basic necessities, like heat, to keep students and teachers warm during the winter.

There needs to be better and more qualified teachers. I know there are many schools that put certain teachers in classes that they aren’t qualified to teach, and as a result, they don’t teach the class well. When I was going to school, I’ve had lots of teachers that didn’t know how to teach. I remember I had one teacher in middle school who only gave us crossword puzzles to do everyday. And another teacher in high school who was barely there to teach the class at all. She would be absent a whole lot. We almost always had a substitute for her class. And when she was there, all she did was show movies (not educational ones, by the way. ACTUAL movies! Like the ones we see in theaters or on TV) or give us assignments out of a current events magazine. Some of the other students liked it, but I always hated it. I go to school to learn and do work. I can watch movies at home! If I’m going to go to school and all we do is watch movies all day, I might as well not come to school at all! The sad thing was, I really liked her as a person. She was nice and she thought I was a brilliant student. She just didn’t do what I thought teachers should do.

And don’t get me started on all the teachers I had throughout my school years where they would just pass out worksheets and then sit behind their desks all day. No kind of instruction or anything. And when a student needed help with their work, they would get angry and didn’t want to help and most likely because they didn’t know how to help! I remember one teacher I had in high school who would always get upset when a student asked him for help. A lot of times, if students had wrong answers, he would embarrass them and laugh at them in front of the whole class. He did that so much, eventually students stopped asking him for help. But then, he would get upset if students are continuing to fail his work and has the nerve to wonder why no one wanted to come to him for help. A lot of students liked him because he cursed and was very funny. I liked him, too. I just didn’t like how he treated students.

I remember going to elementary school and there were teachers and staff that withheld lunch and kept the kids in the hallway just because they were talking. My little sister is in elementary school now and she said that her school did that to her class as well. I KNOW they’re not supposed to do that! Wasn’t free lunch put in schools to ensure that no kids were going hungry? And now, they’re taking it away because of talking?! TALKING?!??? We have teachers and staff that are that stuck in schools? We need to make sure these types of teachers and staff aren’t in the schools if we decide to make school all year round.

I’ve also seen teachers who are mean to students and think they can talk to them any kind of way. My sister told me all the time about some of the teachers she has who are very snarky to the students. A lot of times for no reason. Schools don’t need teachers like that! They shouldn’t be there at all if they’re going to treat students like that! Schools need teachers who are nice, calm, and patient.

I think classes should be smaller. So many schools try to cram way too many students in one class. I’ve heard of lots of classes that had 20 to 30 students in them. Sometimes, there would be more than that! I think if classes were smaller, it can help cut down on the bullying because it would be easier for teachers to spot it and stop it. It would cut down on distractions because too many people in one place can be very distracting. I think that makes it harder for students to work and pay attention to the lessons being taught. I believe smaller classes can make it easier for teachers to help the students who need a little more help and are falling behind. Helping the students who are falling behind can be tough when there’s too many students. Also, too many students in one class can be very overwhelming for teachers. I think classes should have about 12 students. 15 at the most.

Things need to change to make it better for teachers, too. Many teachers already don’t get paid enough for what they do. If schools are going to be all year round and teachers are still going to be underpaid, that is not going to work out so well. There will be more teacher strikes than ever before.

Also, the students who are coming to school have to be willing to learn and listen to what the teachers say. When I was going to school, I’ve witnessed way too many kids who wanted to come to school to play and talk and not listen to the teachers’ instructions, then have the nerve to get upset when the teachers give them failing grades. Or they get upset because the teachers give them work. What do they think school is for??? I’ve also witnessed those kids who wanted to be rude and talk back to the teachers. Most of the time, for no real reason. Probably just to show off in front of their friends. Those kinds of kids DO NOT need to be anywhere near a school!

I think the best solution for an all year round school is for all schools to practice absolute ZERO TOLERANCE. If a student comes to school everyday, but always wants to be disruptive, disrespectful, and not take in the lessons, they should be expelled. Not suspended. EXPELLED! If students come to school wanting to fight, they should be expelled. If a teacher comes to school everyday and doesn’t teach or give out actual work, they should be fired. If a teacher is being mean and rude to students, they should be fired. Anyone caught bullying should be expelled. To make it a little lenient, everyone can get ONE warning. Just ONE. They shouldn’t have to be told more than once because they should already know the right things to do. If they continue to do those things after that one warning, expelled or fired it should be! I prefer no warning a lot more, though.

School is supposed to be a place for teachers to teach and students to learn. There shouldn’t be anything more than that in schools. Anything other than that, I consider trash to the school and it should be taken out to the dump!

I think all year round school is an excellent idea. I remember hearing someone say somewhere that schools should either shorten or take away summer breaks because students forget too much during that time off. I totally agree with that. I just don’t think it’s the proper time for it right now. If schools make those changes, then they can make them all year round. If not, they can leave the school year the way it is. Many of today’s schools are full of way too much trash!

Telling People To “Not Respond” To Negativity Just Might Be The Oldest Trick In The Book

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I’ve always heard people say “Just ignore it”, “Just ignore it”, or “Don’t Let It Bother You”, to other people who are dealing with someone who bothers them or does something negative to them. I used to agree and go along with that advice. But now, I believe it’s just a trick to make people passive.

I think people just want to be able to do bad things to others and not deal with any repercussions or guilt from doing it. I’m not a violent person by any means, but some people deserve to have all the teeth knocked out of their mouths for the things they say and do to other people!

People steal from others. They bully others. They say and do rude things. They spread rumors about others that aren’t even true. And, sometimes, there are people who say and spread around untrue things about people they don’t even know. I think it’s wrong to tell someone to “just ignore” things like this if they’re dealing with it. In a lot of cases, “ignoring it” just makes people do it more because they think you’re giving them the impression that they can get away with it or they just want a response out of you.

Some people are just miserable with their lives and want to screw with other people to make themselves feel better and make other people as miserable as they are. I also believe that some people only tell other people to “not respond” to negativity because the negativity isn’t happening to them and they don’t know exactly how the other person feels about it.

I think it’s weird that people do bad things to others, but if the other people retaliate, they’re looked at as the bad guys for “letting negativity get to them”. People have even made it to where if a person defends themselves against a negative rumor about them, it means that they’re “guilty” of it or it somehow makes the rumor true. What?!? How does things get this twisted?!

I don’t think people should just ignore and hold all that negativity in. I get the feeling that it’s really bad for anyone’s health. I think that causes mental instabilities, insecurities, as well as murders (There’s only so much people can take before they actually snap). I think people should do something about the negativity right there and then. People are wrong as all get out sometimes and need to be told so. It doesn’t always have to resort to violence, though. If it does, then they more than likely deserved it anyway.

I think people should at least be able to tell those people about how that stuff makes them feel, though, if violence isn’t an option. If someone is doing or saying something bad to someone else, the other person should always be able to defend themselves, no matter if it’s verbally or physically. Not roll over and just let them do it and get away with it.

Why I Started Blogging

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I feel like I did everything I wanted to do at my job. I know there is something better out there for me. I feel like my skills and intelligence greatly exceed my job. And, to be honest, I feel like the job is beneath me. Even though I love my job and the people I’ve met there, I know it isn’t really something I want to do long term. 

I want to do something that I feel would put my skills and intelligence to great and proper use. And, of course, I want to do something I love. One of my worst fears is going into a job I won’t like. I used to always hear so many people around me, including some of my family members, complaining about how much they hate their jobs and the people on it. I never wanted to be that person.

I also want to do something where I can work on my own terms and be my own boss. I just really hate having people telling me what to do. Not that I have anything against anybody I work with. It’s just that it gives me an uneasy feeling.

So, since I know I want a job that I will love and will be something I have the skills for and something where I can make my own moves, I asked myself, “Well, what do you like to do?”

I love reading and I think I love writing even more. So, I thought, “What can you do that involves reading and writing?” Suddenly, it hit me. BLOGGING! Long before I thought about blogging, I thought about making YouTube videos. I just knew I had all these things I wanted to say and get off my chest. But, then, I thought that I wouldn’t be very good of a speaker. Since I have social anxiety, I don’t speak to many people and I don’t get to say what’s on my mind very much.

Also, I have a very hard time forming the words I want to say when I get ready to speak in front of an audience. I figured that out through high school and college speech classes. I didn’t want to get on camera and forget things I want to say or take long pauses to think of what I want to say and I didn’t want to take all that time editing because I feel like I will be doing a lot of it. So, I eventually passed on that (I still really want to make YouTube videos, though. Maybe I’ll try it some time on a later date).

On the other hand, blogging is perfect! (And is as close to YouTubing as I will get for now.) Blogging involves a ton of writing and reading. I will read about all the topics I think about writing beforehand. I will also read many other blogs. The best part about this is I don’t have to answer to anyone! I can call my own shots. I can write and read about whatever I feel like.

This will be the perfect way to express myself without feeling like I’m facing a crowd. Writing about these things will be a perfect way for me to spread my thoughts and messages to many people. I was a little skeptic when I first thought of blogging as a job. But after some reading about blogging and seeing many other successful bloggers, I knew it was possible. So, I decided to put forth the effort in trying to learn as much as I can about blogging and gathering together many things I feel I should write about.

I titled my blog, “My Sparking Thoughts”, because every post will be about the things I think about and sometimes I feel like they hit me like a spark. My blog won’t be centered around one specific topic. I will be writing about many different topics and most of them will be about things I notice in our society that I feel should be addressed, but doesn’t get addressed enough.

Most of my posts will be titled as questions because, usually, whenever I think of something, it comes to me as a question first. I will also present them as questions because I want to hear other people’s answers to these questions as well. I think that will make for a very good conversation.

I’m very excited to start my blog and share my thoughts with as many people as I can. Welcome to my blog! I hope you all enjoy what I have to say.