Amanda Seales: You’re Losing

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“If you’re working a side hustle to support your dream hustle, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re broadening your mind, even just one book at a time, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’ve realized everything you need for you is within you, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T KNOW YOUR CREDIT SCORE, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T HAVE A CREDIT CARD, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you don’t have a PASSPORT, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you’re sleeping on an air mattress, YOU’RE LOSING.”

I woke up to Amanda Seales trending on Twitter a few days ago. I clicked on her name to see what the fuss was about. Apparently, people were upset because of some tweets she made (referenced above).

People accused her of “judging” poor people. Trying to make it about because she grew up on television, she shouldn’t be able to tell people how to live. (*eye roll*) I’m not so sure why people were so offended. I thought what she was saying was spot on. I think the only reason people were offended was either because of poor comprehension or because they’re guilty of what she’s talking about and it struck a nerve.

I don’t even see where people could’ve gotten that she was talking down about poor people out of those tweets. It kind of disgusted me seeing all the people she had to explain her tweets to. It’s sad that people’s reading, comprehension, and understanding skills are that bad! What’s even sadder is I’m sure a lot of these people are full grown adults!

If you’re buying things like “Jordans and Nike suits” like she said, but you can’t afford to buy a proper mattress, travel, know your credit score, or whatever else is more important to put your money towards to advance yourself, your priorities are screwed up, you have poor money handling habits, and you’re LOSING!

That’s what’s wrong with a lot of us in our society today. We put our money into the wrong things and wonder why we’re not advancing or making much progress. Some of us spend more money on designer clothes than starting a business or side hustle for ourselves. Some of us spend more money on a fancy car, but live in a shack for a home or a horrible neighborhood.

If you can afford to buy “Jordans and Nike suits”, more power to you. If you have money, but don’t want any interest in traveling, that’s okay. But if you can’t afford to buy or invest your money in something important, but you can buy that type of stuff, something isn’t right.

She said something else in another tweet:

“It’s funny how when Jay-Z said all of this ya’ll kneeled at the alter but when I say it it’s (insert hurt feelings & fuckshit here) LOL”

This is spot on, too. So many people are always so quick to side with, praise, and agree when someone like Jay-Z is saying this stuff. But if someone like Amanda Seales says it, people have to find a fault in it. That makes ZERO sense.

Although many people agreed with the things Jay-Z was saying about prosperity over the years and on his album, 4:44 (probably some of the same people who are so offended by Amanda Seales’ tweets), there were some people who treated him just like they’re doing her. I just don’t understand it. I guess people just don’t like being told that they need to do better.

We have to do better with our money in this world. We have to do better for ourselves. Let’s stop being so quick to say somebody’s “judging” you, when in reality, they’re actually telling you advice that can really help you. Where does all this offensiveness about whatever someone says come from, exactly, anyway?

Why I’m Not Excited About The First Black Bachelorette 

Rachel Lindsay is the first black bachelorette for season 14 of ABC’s show, The Bachelorette. Lots of people are very happy that The Bachelorette is finally a black woman. But, unfortunately for me, I’m not as excited as other people are about it. 

And I’m not excited about it for two reasons. The first being the fact that it took this long to cast one in the first place. The Bachelorette has been aired on ABC for FOURTEEN YEARS! It shouldn’t have taken that long to cast a black one if they really wanted to cast one. 

Also, I now realize that there is no reason to be upset that certain groups of people (in this case, black people) aren’t included in a show, movie, or whathaveyou because it is their show. They are supposed to cast their own people or whoever they want. Every other racial group that has TV shows, movies, etc., casts their own people and do it without a problem. It’s time for us black people to start doing the same and stop worrying about if and when white people will cast us in something they created. 

The second reason is because she will most likely end up choosing a white man. Most (if not all; my brother used to tune in and watch it. I never did, but he would tell me what was going on. And he only watched it because he’s a wrestling fan and one of the black contestants was a professional wrestler. After he was eliminated and there was only one black man left in the show, my brother stopped watching it and telling me about it. So, I don’t know if the last black man has been eliminated or not) of the black men have been eliminated. And my brother told me about how one of the black men on the show said that she hasn’t had any one-on-one’s with any of the black men, but she had them with plenty of the white men on the show.

I knew when I first saw her that she would be more likely to choose a white man. First, because she’s on ABC, a white owned network. Second, she’s on The Bachelorette, a white created show, with a bunch of white men. More white men than black. Plus, something just looked off about her. She gave me a weird vibe. Something about her made me think she would more likely choose a man that wasn’t black.

Now, I’m not against interracial dating. What I’m not happy about is that very few, if any, of the white Bachelors and Bachelorettes on the shows have chosen to be with a nonwhite contestant, especially a black one. But the one and first black Bachelorette we have has to be more likely to choose a nonblack contestant? That just doesn’t sit well with me. 

I had this same reaction with Disney’s movie, The Princess and The Frog. After all these years Disney has been around making movies and all these princesses they have created and they are finally creating a black one? And she, too, was with a nonblack man in the movie. How many of the white Disney princesses were with black men? Don’t worry. I’ll wait.

I find it odd that after years upon years of not casting someone black on a show, they finally do and they put them with someone who isn’t black, most likely a white person. That just doesn’t feel right to me at all. Something is very wrong with that. 

I feel that instead of us being happy that a white show finally casted a black person on their show after years upon years of being on air, we should stop waiting for them to cast us in their shows and create and be happy with our own shows. Let’s stop waiting on white people! No other group of people wait on other people to create something for them and neither should we!

Did Keri Hilson Diss Beyoncé? 

Rumors have been swirling around for years about how Keri Hilson dissed Beyoncé in her verse in the remix of her song, “Turnin’ Me On”. I know this is an old topic because this song came out years ago, but I want to write about it anyway because many people still talk about this to this day and still believe that she dissed, not only Beyoncé, but Ciara and Nicole Scherzinger, as well and are still against her for it.

I’m going to break this song down piece by piece from the lyrics and see what this song will reveal and see if this song is actually dissing these women.

“I ain’t tryin’ to start some mess. It’s just somethin’ on my chest that I need to get off ’cause you turnin’ me off.”

“Your vision cloudy if you think that you the best. You can dance, she can sing, but she need to move it to the…”

Even though Polow Da Don interrupted before she finished the line, it’s pretty obvious what she was saying was, “Move it to the left”, which is what Beyoncé says in her song, “Irreplaceable”. Also, we know that Beyoncé is a singer and dancer. So are Ciara and Nicole Scherzinger.

“She need to go have some babies. She need to sit down. She fake. Them other chicks ain’t even worth my time to talk about.”

In an interview, which I will have posted down below, Keri Hilson explained that this line is actually what people in the industry have been saying about her, so she put it onto this record. I think people think this line was about Beyoncé because people have been saying these same things about her for years, long before this song was released.

“Been had dollars, boy. Go on, get your money. Know you ain’t the only homie on me lined up. I ain’t turnin’ off. I stay turnin’ on. Go on and tell these folks how long I been writin’ your songs. I been puttin’ you on. Just check the credits, ho. And if you want me, you can find me in Decatur, ho. ‘Cause you turnin’ me off.”

So, apparently, she’s talking about someone she wrote songs for. This is what led me to the realization that she wasn’t dissing Beyoncé. How many songs has she written for Beyoncé? People say she wrote Beyoncé’s verse in the remix of Usher’s “Love In This Club”. When this song came out, people in the comments were saying, “How can she say this about Beyoncé when she only wrote one verse for her?” People didn’t realize that they were telling themselves that she wasn’t talking about Beyoncé right there.

On the other hand, she has written songs for Ciara and The Pussycat Dolls, Nicole Scherzinger’s group, though. But I don’t think there’s enough proof in this song to make anyone think she is talking about them. She’s written songs for so many people. She could’ve been talking about anyone.

Like she said in these interviews below, I think this song is a blanket statement about how other people were treating her in the music industry. That’s exactly what the lyrics sound like to me. And there are tons of songs out there by many singers and rappers that are like that; that sound like diss records, but aren’t directed at anyone specifically.

And if she was talking about these women, clearly she’s saying they are being fake and doing wrong by her. She’s not saying this for no reason. Why shouldn’t she be able to say something about it? Is she supposed to let these women be fake and cross her over and not say anything about it at all just because of who they are? How come no one checked Beyoncé, Ciara, and Nicole Scherzinger to find out what they did to make her say this about them if they really thought this song was about them instead of being upset that she said this? I feel like this exposed how backwards people are.

At the end of the day, nobody really knows exactly who she’s talking about. People just heard this song and started speculating. Pulling names out of thin air. I think it’s really wrong to hold her accountable for dissing people that no one has any real proof of that she dissed. The only thing anybody can do with this song is speculate.

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