Male Rape

Have you seen the movie, Friday After Next? Do you know of the scene where Damon (Terry Crews) tried to rape Money Mike (Katt Williams) in the bathroom while there was a huge party going on? How about Tyler Perry’s movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself? Do you know of the scene where the (married) man April (Taraji P. Henson) was with in the movie tried to rape her niece in the kitchen in the middle of the night?

What was the difference between these two movie scenes? I’ll tell you. One was funny and the other was serious. To be more specific, the one with the man about to be raped was made to be funny. The one with a young female was made to be serious. If you really think about it, lots of movies are like this. If a man is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed, it’s usually always funny. Rarely, if ever, is it portrayed as funny if a woman is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed in a movie or TV show.

It’s pretty disturbing thinking about exactly how many movies and TV shows I have seen over the years, not realizing what they were making a joke out of.

I don’t mean to ruin these movies and TV shows for you guys because I know that’s what a lot of people will tell me in response to this. I know a lot of people enjoy these movies, but I’m just calling it how I see it.

Then, of course, there’s the “don’t drop the soap” joke about male rape in prisons. The fact that this is a joke is proof that lots of people are full aware of men getting raped in jails/prisons, but very little is being done about it and no one takes it seriously.

Why does Hollywood do this? Why does Hollywood make it funny when a man is being raped or sexually harrassed? Please, everyone. Be very mindful of what you watch on television! A lot of it is extremely toxic! It’s brainwashing! This is just one example. I will be pointing out so many more examples of toxic things being promoted in media on my blog in a lot of posts later to come.

This is one huge reason why so many people don’t take male rape seriously. If the media portrays it as a funny thing, then that’s what people are going to see and think of it as. I remember a conversation in high school where one of the boys said, “If a woman rapes you and you’re man, you’re gay”. There was another one I remember where we were doing an assignment on making a biography about ourselves. One of the boys told a story about how he was only a teenager and he had already been shot, stabbed, and raped, and one of the other male classmates said he was gay.

If we don’t start taking male rape seriously, young boys and men will continue to be raped and very little will be done about it. Let’s not forget that rape is a very traumatizing experience. And you don’t have to be a rape victim to know this. What is a young boy or man supposed to do if he gets raped or sexually harrassed and people shame him if he tells someone? How can he deal with his pain and trauma?

A lot of times, as a society, we really don’t know what we’re doing, what we’re laughing at, or how things affect us. We just engage in it because we think it’s cool. We really need to be mindful of this stuff. This type of stuff is killing and destroying so many people. We have to stop and change this immediately.

My heart deeply goes out to all the boys and men who get raped and sexually harrassed by other men or women, but are shamed into not saying anything. The only way we can change this is that we as a society need to wake up and realize that it’s wrong and start doing something about it.

This news article completely proves my point.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-40801782

I Don’t Like Being Awake

Just in case if there’s someone who doesn’t know, what I mean about being “awake” has to do with being consciously aware of a lot of the things going on in our society and throughout the world. Not literally awake, like waking up from a good night’s sleep.

And I must admit that I kind of hate being awake. Knowing the things that I know is a blessing and a curse. I’ve come to being awake to a lot of things just within the past year simply by thinking and having shocking revelations that are just irrefutable. My thoughts connected me to things that were right in front of me the whole time. A lot of the things I’ve come to realize is even more important for the masses of black people than anyone else because it effects us more.

It’s a blessing because if I can show and teach people the truth, it will change our society for the better forever. But I hate being awake and it’s a curse because I know the information I have come to realize, which I will be sharing some of it throughout this blog at later times (because it’s too much to talk about in just one post), needs to be seriously heeded by the masses of our society. But I know much of my messages will just fall on deaf ears. Many people will just get offended and argue about the truth that’s right in front of them instead of thinking and reading about it themselves.

The people who are part of the conscious community might not like me saying this, but sometimes, I miss living in what I like to call “Oblivion”, the place in your mind where you are oblivious to everything around you. I miss being “asleep”. Because now that I’m awake, I can’t enjoy the things I used to enjoy anymore. I can’t enjoy the radio. The Internet. Television. Shopping. The foods that I eat. Certain people. Anything. Because I can see right through the B.S. of it all and it makes me sad and angry. The things I have come to know and see about our society is quite disturbing. I just don’t know what to do with myself now. And I know that in order for all this stuff to change, the masses of our society has to wake up, too. Changing this society won’t work with just a few people awake. But sadly, most of them won’t.

And they won’t because I know that once they do, they will realize that they have to give up and change everything they love. They will realize how long they’ve wasted their lives believing lies made up by the people who run our society and living in “Oblivion”. They will also realize exactly how much work that needs to be done to change it and if enough people aren’t awake, just thinking about doing the necessary things that needs to be done to change things will feel like too much.

Once they wake up, many of them will feel like me. Missing “Oblivion”. Missing enjoying the things they used to love, but can’t because they will see a lot of those things are lies and only used to keep us dumbed down. Once you wake up, you can never go back to sleep. Once you wake up, you can never go back to “Oblivion”. Nothing will ever look or feel the same again.

The worst thing about being “awake” is knowing the truth, telling the truth, but everyone else just denies or ignores it. Trying to wake people up is exhausting and discouraging when you’re talking to a bunch of people that just don’t want to.

It’s really sad being awake and seeing exactly how many people are still asleep and no matter what you do or say, you just can’t wake them up. Sometimes, I feel like a person who’s trying to save a bunch of people from a burning house, but the people are just sitting there like they don’t notice the fire.

I’m starting to think I’m not the only one who feels like this when it comes to being awake. I think this is where the phrase “Ignorance is bliss” comes from. When you’re ignorant, everything around you seems fine and okay and you’re happy. But once you learn and see the truth in things for what they are, that fake happy world immediately disappears.

Although it can be discouraging at times, I’m going to try my hardest to never give in to ignorance. I’m going to do whatever I can to make the changes I need to make to adjust to being awake and I’m going to do whatever I can to share as much information as possible to wake up anyone who wants and needs to be.