Everything Matters Except Black Lives

When we said “Black Lives Matter” because we thought black people were being treated unfairly by law enforcement, what happened? People cried, protested, called us racists and “divisive”, and responded with other movements playing off of it. People came up with All Lives Matter, Blue Lives Matter, and even White Lives Matter.

Somehow so many people found it so offensive because we said Black Lives Matter. But people made all these adverse movements against ours and no one is protesting theirs. What is this telling us?

Even the silly ones, like “Little Booties Matter”, should raise some concern and not be treated as funny. There’s a reason they’re allowing so many people to say that their things matter, but when we said that we matter, everyone freaks out. Something isn’t right.

Why does us saying Black Lives Matter make so many people so uncomfortable? So uncomfortable to where they feel the need replace to word “black” with anything and it’s okay?

Why Are Women Pressured To Wait For Sex, But Men Aren’t?

I remember a conversation my class had back when I was going to high school. A boy said it’s okay for a girl to wait for sex, but if a boy hasn’t had sex by 16 he’s gay. It was such a ridiculous statement because what if every girl actually did wait to have sex? Who would boys have sex with? Other boys? Animals? Sometimes, people don’t realize how ridiculous they sound when they say certain things, especially when they’re so quick to label someome as gay for it.

I remember a post I saw on Facebook of a woman completely fully clothed. No arms showing. No legs showing. I believe even her hair was covered, too. She was dressed in what looked like a long denim dress. The picture was captioned, “You can still be sexy fully clothed”. I like the message of the photo because sometimes, women don’t feel attractive unless they’re dressed very skimpy. But at the same time, it looked weird seeing her with all those clothes on. To me, she looked like she had a disease and they were trying to cover her so it wouldn’t spread! (I know that probably sounds like an exaggeration, but that’s exactly what I felt like what she looked like dressed like that.) It made me think that something was very wrong about how men view women in this society.

I also think about the many television shows and movies I have seen where a girl’s parents or some other male authority figure in the show is breathing down her back about not having sex and trying their best to keep as many boys away from her as possible. But on the same shows and movies, those people are not as hard on the boys about having sex and actually encourage them to get girlfriends at really young ages.

Why is this? Why does this society put so much pressure on women about sex, telling them what age is appropriate for them to have sex, what clothes are appropriate for them to wear, etc., but boys are encouraged to be involved with girls and have sex at really young ages? What does this society have against women and sex? Where does this stigma come from?

Many sources say that girls and women should wait for sex because it can bring about unwanted pregnancies or they can get pregnant by a man who will step out on her and their child. There’s also sources that tell girls and women to wait for sex because of sexually transmitted diseases.

I completely agree with waiting on having sex to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and to prevent unwanted pregnancies or avoid getting pregnant by a boy or man who will step away from his job as a father. However, I feel like boys and men aren’t told to wait for sex to avoid getting girls and women pregnant at the wrong time or to protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases like girls and women are. Although there’s a little truth in telling women to wait to prevent pregnancies and STDs, I also feel like they’re nothing more than shaming and scare tactics that this society uses to try to control female sexuality.

I feel that men fear and are intimidated by female sexuality. I feel that is the reason why they try so hard to suppress it. I believe they are afraid and intimidated because they feel that women can have a lot of power over them through sex and their sexuality. They try to hide this by pushing the idea that they are superior to women and tell the world it’s okay for them to be with as many women as they want and get praised for it, but if a woman is with more than one man, she’s a “hoe”, “slut”, “bitch”, you name it!

I believe men are happy when they are with multiple women because it makes them feel they have all the sexual power and control, but when a woman has multiple men, it threatens their sexual power and control.

I feel that men tell women to wait for sex and dress so covered up that she shows no skin at all because they are happier and less intimidated with the idea that she’s not having sex (unless it’s with them) and is fully clothed.

There’s an article I found on Huffpost that I will link in this post that mentioned a few theories about why men are so afraid of female sexuality. It said this fear could be hardwired into men because just like in the animal kingdom, men want to perpetuate his own genes. If women are too sexual, they probably won’t be able to do that because she would’ve more than likely been with other men.

Another thing it brought up is that men are afraid of women being unfaithful to them because of the shame that comes with it from society, so they do everything they can to prevent it.

But I believe those theories the least. I believe most all that it has to do with the male ego & men trying to control female sexuality. This could be a lot deeper than what anyone thinks.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1289564

Azealia Banks Blames Black Men For Why Bodak Yellow Went #1

I’m sorry. Black industry men are too hype for this Latina girl. I’ve never seen them jump like this for Remy or Nicki. Spinning this ‘for the culture’ story when they are simply letting white men at Atlantic buy them into hating their own women… I wanted spicy Latina and she gave me poor mans Nicki. Charlamagne and black men in Hip-Hop should have gotten me, Remy AND Nicki a number one before they gave Cardi or Iggy one. But literally white guys buy black men away from black women and it’s soo cringe.

The moment Bodak Yellow by Cardi B topped the Billboard chart at #1, Azealia Banks responded with this post on her social media. I first saw it on a video by a YouTuber named Chrissie and she was addressing what she said.

At first glance, I thought it sounded like she was telling the truth. But now that I think about it, she really is trying to throw black men under the bus because Cardi B got a #1 Billboard song and not a black female rapper. She’s basically saying it’s black men’s fault Bodak Yellow went #1 on Billboard before a black female rapper did. It’s ridiculous, laughable, and disgusting.

At first, I thought Azealia Banks was a woman who’s just misunderstood and people just hated her because it’s cool and popular. After that B.S. I see now that the people are right. I don’t think anybody should take anything she says seriously at this point. And I feel bad for writing this because I really tried to give her a chance. I listened to a few of her songs and even though they weren’t my cup of tea, I still thought she had a great singing voice and was very good at rapping. But now, I think the things she says and does completely overshadows her talent. It’s sad that she’s known more for her antics and the crazy things she says when she really has talent. It’s a shame!

And I’m starting to believe that this is going to be a pattern for her. Whenever there’s a light skinned or nonblack female rapper who makes it to #1, she will always try to express this psuedo problack, anti-black man drivel that makes it look as if she’s speaking up for black women or black issues when she’s really just spilling her insecurities and hate for black men everywhere. She pulled this stunt with Iggy Azalea first. Now, she’s doing it with Cardi B. At this rate, I can almost guarantee that she will do this to the next person like them.

Getting deeper into why I think her comments are wrong, first of all, is blaming black men for Bodak Yellow being #1 is definitely misguided because 1) the music industry is basically white owned. White men own all or most of the major record labels. They control these artists and they choose what is hot and what songs should be pushed and promoted to be hits. 2) Cardi B’s biggest supporters are black women, not black men. She has way more black female fans than black male fans. When I skim through the comments under her videos and social media, most of the supportive comments are from black women. Black women are the main ones who like Bodak Yellow and are showing themselves on videos dancing to it or whatever. So, she needs to guide her comments to the white owned record industry and black women. (Don’t get me wrong. I don’t see anything wrong with supporting Cardi B. If you like Cardi B and Bodak Yellow, by all means continue to like it. I’m not antagonizing anyone who does, just to make things clear. I’m only showing that black men aren’t the reason for why it’s #1 and she shouldn’t try to jab them in the eye for it.) And Iggy Azalea went to #1 NOT because of black men, but because of the white owned industry and her white fan base. Black men do not care for Iggy Azalea like she thinks they do and they never did.

Her saying black men were more hype for Cardi B and showing her more love than they ever did for Nicki Minaj or Remy Ma is also wrong. I remember when Nicki Minaj first started to become popular in the Hip-Hop scene. Tons of black men were fascinated with her. Maybe not because of her music, but definitely because of her looks. Black men were always raging over how she looked and a lot of them still do today and have done for her way more than Cardi B. And Remy Ma may not be as popular as Nicki or Cardi B mainstream wise, but many black men have complimented her rap skills and listen to her and do so more than they do with Cardi B. So, that’s just extremely false. I feel like she just said this because Cardi B isn’t black.

But I do agree with her basically saying black female rappers are typically overlooked. There are tons of beautiful black female rappers who are amazing rappers, but they don’t get to be #1 on Billboard or popular at all and are always pushed aside for light skinned or nonblack women. But again, I don’t blame black men for this. I blame the music industry. The industry doesn’t look at talent and we can tell just by listening to most popular songs on the radio today.

There’s enough anti-black man stuff on the Internet and a lot of it isn’t even necessary. This just adds on to it. Her post looked as if she viewed black men as the enemy for Cardi B having a #1 hit song and probably wants other black women to view them the same. Her post came off as bitter and ridiculous to me. It also showed me she’s just a bedwench.

What makes this worst is that many black women will believe her and hate black men for this because it’s in to throw black men under the bus now and blame them for everything bad. It’a pretty toxic way to think if you ask me.

Is Money Really The Root Of All Evil?

I’ve heard the old saying that money is the root of all evil all my life. In a way, I kind of think it is and isn’t. For starters, I think it isn’t because it is what people do for money that makes it evil. The love of money and greed is what’s evil.

People are willing to lie, cheat, steal, kill innocent people or even children for money. People sell out their own family members and friends for money. People are willing to compromise their self respect and do unethical things or things they wouldn’t normally do for money. People even look down on other people who don’t have as much money.

Lots of people let money change and control them. It makes them arrogant and maybe even stupid in a lot of ways.

On the flipside, it is because having little to no money causes a lot of stress and pain to a lot of people because they can’t afford to pay for the basic things they need to live; clothes, food, houses, bills, maybe a car to get to wherever they want to go, take care of their children or other people they have to take care of, etc.

Not having money causes people to become very depressed, stressed, and even suicidal. And it can cause them to do bad things out of desperation.

In a lot of ways, I believe money was invented for control and power. I know there’s someone or maybe even numerous people who want to control mass amounts of people and control what they do and how they live and money is a great way to do that.

I believe that there is no use for money in the world because everything was created just for us for free and we fight and kill ourselves and each other for things that we should all be free to have. No one should have the right to put a price on something they don’t own and didn’t create themselves.

But then again, I’ve read from different sources about why money was created. One thing I read said it was to compensate for the shortcomings of the barter system. Before there was money, people traded for what they wanted and sometimes, people didn’t always agree with what someone wanted to trade them. And if someone didn’t agree with what someone else wanted to trade them, they wouldn’t be able to get what they needed or wanted.

But what about the shortcomings of the monetary system where people can’t afford to buy certain things?

Another said that money was created to ration out things better. If everything was free, people would consume things very quickly due to greed and self-centeredness and there would be a scarcity in many things.

And another said money was created to motivate people to do work. If there was no money, people wouldn’t put in the effort or put in very little to do certain things. People wouldn’t want to build or anything. With money, people have a reason to get things done, thus creating a productive society.

Although I do believe these other reasons make a lot of sense, I still believe that money was created for control and power most of all. People have wanted to have power and control over other people for ages.

I don’t think money is really supposed to exist, which is why it causes so much evil and problems. Money has no real value. It isn’t really backed by anything. It only has value because the government says so.

Why Don’t Black People Shop Black Owned?

There’s many theories about why more black people don’t support black owned businesses. You would think that more black people would shop where their people own the stores and create the products/services, but unfortunately, many do not. Why is this?

I have two main reasons for why I believe this is. The first reason is price. I know how important it is for black people to support their own businesses, so I went searching for some black owned businesses online to shop one day. I have to admit many of the prices at black owned businesses are ridiculous, I’m sorry to say. When other people point out how high the pricing is at a lot of black owned businesses, people love using stereotypical deflecting and shaming tactics, like “You people complain about these prices, but love buying iPhones and Jordans” or “Black people need to stop being so cheap!”, instead of acknowledging and admitting that the prices are a problem and we need to get together and find a solution for it.

If we don’t admit that the prices are a problem, nothing is going to get done about it. The first step in solving a problem is acknowledging and admitting that there is one.

I know the businesses in this society are built on a supply and demand basis, so I know a lot of black business prices are high not because they want them to be, but because the demand for their products and services aren’t as high as it is at other places, being that it is a smaller business. So, since the demand is lower, the prices are higher. The only way we can fix this is if more of us start supporting them, but I know it’s hard for many people to shop at a store where the prices are out of reach to them.

People want to complain about how black people would rather shop at the Walmarts and Targets of the world than black owned businesses, but what they always conveniently fail to tell you is that at Walmart and Target, you can pretty much get anything you want at a good price there. Unfortunately, we can’t do that with many black businesses. People go where they can stretch their dollars and get the most things for their budget. And that isn’t just black thing. ALL races of people do that.

The next reason I have is location or availability. In many neighborhoods across America, black businesses are few and far in between. Many people have to go a little (or a lot) out of their way to get to a black business. Sadly enough, other races of people have more businesses in our neighborhoods than we do. So, people go to the businesses that are closest to them, where they don’t have to walk or drive too far out of their way. And again, that isn’t just black thing. All kinds of people shop at places that are near them.

In my opinion, a lot of black businesses are unfortunately inconvenient to many black people. In order for more black people to support other black businesses, I think we have to have our businesses give the convenience (if not MORE convenience) that other businesses give.

I don’t believe black people shop at every other store because they don’t want to support their own people, like I’ve heard some people say. I believe they shop at every other store because every other store is more convenient for them.

Many of us love repeating that statistic about how long a dollar circulates and changes hands in other communities compared to ours, but we always tiptoe around why that is.

I think on this subject we do way too much dancing around the pink elephant in the room. And that pink elephant is that we are VERY FAR behind other races when it comes to business. The only way we’re going to catch up is if more of us start realizing how important it is that we need businesses and need to create and control our own resources.

There’s no reason for every other race of people to have more businesses in our neighborhoods than we do, especially since it’s not like that in their neighborhoods. We don’t own a bunch of businesses in their neighborhoods. They own their own. It’s been way past due for us to do the same.

There’s a video I stumbled across by a YouTuber named Chrissie, who has a video speaking about why black people don’t shop at black owned businesses, which I have included in this post, and she said pretty much the same thing I’m saying now, but one interesting thing she said that I didn’t think about is that a lot of times, we resent products and services that are made specifically for us.

We hate when other races of people don’t include us in their ads or whatever, but when it’s something created just for us, we hate that it doesn’t include others. We think it’s racist. We’re so stuck on inclusivity, including everybody else into whatever we have, that a lot of us are not ready to accept a business that caters strictly to us.

That’s one thing we have to get out of as well. I don’t think we fully understand that people are supposed to cater to their own people. When they make a product or service, they’re usually not making it to cater to other people, even though they don’t discriminate against who can buy the product. That’s what we need to start realizing. We need to start realizing that nobody is supposed to build and cater to us BUT US!

Male Rape

Have you seen the movie, Friday After Next? Do you know of the scene where Damon (Terry Crews) tried to rape Money Mike (Katt Williams) in the bathroom while there was a huge party going on? How about Tyler Perry’s movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself? Do you know of the scene where the (married) man April (Taraji P. Henson) was with in the movie tried to rape her niece in the kitchen in the middle of the night?

What was the difference between these two movie scenes? I’ll tell you. One was funny and the other was serious. To be more specific, the one with the man about to be raped was made to be funny. The one with a young female was made to be serious. If you really think about it, lots of movies are like this. If a man is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed, it’s usually always funny. Rarely, if ever, is it portrayed as funny if a woman is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed in a movie or TV show.

It’s pretty disturbing thinking about exactly how many movies and TV shows I have seen over the years, not realizing what they were making a joke out of.

I don’t mean to ruin these movies and TV shows for you guys because I know that’s what a lot of people will tell me in response to this. I know a lot of people enjoy these movies, but I’m just calling it how I see it.

Then, of course, there’s the “don’t drop the soap” joke about male rape in prisons. The fact that this is a joke is proof that lots of people are full aware of men getting raped in jails/prisons, but very little is being done about it and no one takes it seriously.

Why does Hollywood do this? Why does Hollywood make it funny when a man is being raped or sexually harrassed? Please, everyone. Be very mindful of what you watch on television! A lot of it is extremely toxic! It’s brainwashing! This is just one example. I will be pointing out so many more examples of toxic things being promoted in media on my blog in a lot of posts later to come.

This is one huge reason why so many people don’t take male rape seriously. If the media portrays it as a funny thing, then that’s what people are going to see and think of it as. I remember a conversation in high school where one of the boys said, “If a woman rapes you and you’re a man, you’re gay”. There was another one I remember where we were doing an assignment on making an autobiography about ourselves. One of the boys told a story about how he was only a teenager and he had already been shot, stabbed, and raped, and one of the other male classmates said he was gay.

If we don’t start taking male rape seriously, young boys and men will continue to be raped and very little will be done about it. Let’s not forget that rape is a very traumatizing experience. And you don’t have to be a rape victim to know this. What is a young boy or man supposed to do if he gets raped or sexually harrassed and people shame him if he tells someone? How can he deal with his pain and trauma?

A lot of times, as a society, we really don’t know what we’re doing, what we’re laughing at, or how things affect us. We just engage in it because we think it’s cool. We really need to be mindful of this stuff. This type of stuff is killing and destroying so many people. We have to stop and change this immediately.

My heart deeply goes out to all the boys and men who get raped and sexually harrassed by other men or women, but are shamed into not saying anything. The only way we can change this is that we as a society need to wake up and realize that it’s wrong and start doing something about it.

This news article completely proves my point.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-40801782

Amanda Seales: You’re Losing

(Photo: Wikimedia Commons)

“If you’re working a side hustle to support your dream hustle, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re broadening your mind, even just one book at a time, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’ve realized everything you need for you is within you, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T KNOW YOUR CREDIT SCORE, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T HAVE A CREDIT CARD, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you don’t have a PASSPORT, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you’re sleeping on an air mattress, YOU’RE LOSING.”

I woke up to Amanda Seales trending on Twitter a few days ago. I clicked on her name to see what the fuss was about. Apparently, people were upset because of some tweets she made (referenced above).

People accused her of “judging” poor people. Trying to make it about because she grew up on television, she shouldn’t be able to tell people how to live. (*eye roll*) I’m not so sure why people were so offended. I thought what she was saying was spot on. I think the only reason people were offended was either because of poor comprehension or because they’re guilty of what she’s talking about and it struck a nerve.

I don’t even see where people could’ve gotten that she was talking down about poor people out of those tweets. It kind of disgusted me seeing all the people she had to explain her tweets to. It’s sad that people’s reading, comprehension, and understanding skills are that bad! What’s even sadder is I’m sure a lot of these people are full grown adults!

If you’re buying things like “Jordans and Nike suits” like she said, but you can’t afford to buy a proper mattress, travel, know your credit score, or whatever else is more important to put your money towards to advance yourself, your priorities are screwed up, you have poor money handling habits, and you’re LOSING!

That’s what’s wrong with a lot of us in our society today. We put our money into the wrong things and wonder why we’re not advancing or making much progress. Some of us spend more money on designer clothes than starting a business or side hustle for ourselves. Some of us spend more money on a fancy car, but live in a shack for a home or a horrible neighborhood.

If you can afford to buy “Jordans and Nike suits”, more power to you. If you have money, but don’t want any interest in traveling, that’s okay. But if you can’t afford to buy or invest your money in something important, but you can buy that type of stuff, something isn’t right.

She said something else in another tweet:

“It’s funny how when Jay-Z said all of this ya’ll kneeled at the alter but when I say it it’s (insert hurt feelings & fuckshit here) LOL”

This is spot on, too. So many people are always so quick to side with, praise, and agree when someone like Jay-Z is saying this stuff. But if someone like Amanda Seales says it, people have to find a fault in it. That makes ZERO sense.

Although many people agreed with the things Jay-Z was saying about prosperity over the years and on his album, 4:44 (probably some of the same people who are so offended by Amanda Seales’ tweets), there were some people who treated him just like they’re doing her. I just don’t understand it. I guess people just don’t like being told that they need to do better.

We have to do better with our money in this world. We have to do better for ourselves. Let’s stop being so quick to say somebody’s “judging” you, when in reality, they’re actually telling you advice that can really help you. Where does all this offensiveness about whatever someone says come from, exactly, anyway?